If you have a Dd with adhd

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Please can you tell me how it presents in her?

Dd is 6 and awaiting assessment

Inattentive profile - away with the fairies, disorganised, distracted, squirmy but also a desperate people pleaser so delightful in class - but doesn't have the focus to follow through longer processes in things like maths. It's become more apparent as she's got older and life gets more complicated.

Will lose anything if possible. Has managed to leave school and forget her shoes before and has forgotten to wear a skirt to school (winter, long coats meant DH didn't notice rushing to get in the car to do school run)!

Basically floating around on another planet which is clearly a very nice place to be - lovely lovely kid though and gives the best hugs.

How does it present in your dd, OP?

I suspect my DD has it as she is exactly like the poster’s description above. For the moment she doesn’t struggle particularly - mainly because we are there to organise things for her. I worry for her in the years to come. But she is a lovely lovely girl.

Pretty sure my DD has ADHD, at school presents well, can focus on work, however will request a LOT of toilet trips, always be the first to ask to help give out books, so uses these as an excuse to get up and move around.

Unfortunately I've had the non sleeper and destructive traits from her, more so when little, she's still a crap sleeper, but she at around 9 took a pair of scissors to her bedding, used to steal stuff, steal items in the house to make go awful slime concoction in her room, would draw up her walls, pick the plaster off her walls, just a few examples. She's very impulsive so doesn't think thing's through.

Taps her feet or drums her fingers continuously, interrupts conversations, says thing's and you think why on earth would you say that. Loses everything and is massively disorganized.But she's kind, funny, a high achiever and not at all a bad kid.

Constant noise, constant movement, inability to remember and / or to stick to a routine (school mornings are hell - she forgets to brush her teeth every fecking morning as is away with the fairies).

Hard for her to maintain meaningful friendships. She struggles with school work in the sense that she rarely completes a task despite being academically able.

She is very sensitive about clothes and how they feel on her body - she wears the same brand shirt, trousers, cardigan etc as she has since she started school (obvs in bigger sizes each year) 5 years ago.

She blurts things out in the classroom. Forgets to put her hand up, just shouts out. Can’t sit in her seat (and if she is made to sit on a chair, her legs are tucked up in some way). She loses everything. Last year, she lost 4 school cardigans.

At home, the only thing that maintains her interest for any length of time is tv or tablet. She finds it hard to get to and stay sleep. And the fidgeting and random noises drive me insane (and I should be more sympathetic as I also have ADHD).

Full of energy
Fidgeting
Constantly needing to fill the silence
Look at me look at me constantly
Food issues- texture/taste
Sensory issues - materials
Can't cope with unexpected change
Massively struggles to see why she might be wrong
Impulsive
Poor concentration
Misses obvious social cues
Struggles if attention is On anyone else

Shes great though and hugely empathetic and kind and generous and now as an adult she manages her adhd traits amazingly. She is literally the best person.

Holds it together perfectly at school - the model student. Completely falls apart when home.

Girls have the social inclination to be able to echo the behaviour of others but it takes an enormous amount of effort, on top of all the learning required.

Mine is also autistic.

Can't sit still so doesn't eat much
No sense of danger
Safeguarding risk ie running off/hiding
Doesn't understand social cues
Away with fairies
Can't concentrate
Little sleep
Huge meltdowns
Bites/hits/screams/headbands
Obsessions
Tics

But, the is very loving and has moments of pure kindness.

This and the sleeping is terrible. Also she gets angry, very angry and it could be the smallest thing that’s just gone a bit different not her way. We are waiting for an assessment too.

it’s hard work, exhausting. She’s masking well at school, doesn’t have the pace in maths, can’t be put on the spot. Worries about everything she’s super anxious.

9 . Can't sit still unless zoned out watching TV and then won't hear anything you say. Loud, emotional, very sensitive. Can get very angry and physical - red mist. Had sensory issues with clothing but almost gone now. Loves very focused activities like sewing.

I am definitely too. I lose things multiple times a day, miss appointments, forget everything, am a messy human, procrastinate til the last moment but then smash it out very intensely. Obsessive over things go from one thing I'm very into to another.

18, dx'd at 5.

Constant energy and movement. Slapdash approach to schoolwork and anything written but absorbed oral and picture content like a sponge. Disorganised. Couldn't keep attention on "boring" things - but laser focus for hours on things that interested her (still happens now - has ASD as well, formerly called Aspergers). Huge huge difficulties sleeping, both in where and when. Over the years, has done periods on the beanbag, on the floor, on 2 mattresses, under heavy duvet and 2 blankets to nothing on top...using no, 1 or 2 pillows and sometimes a nest of cushions around her too.

Need for quiet space to decompress at times. Too much light or sound were problems and made concentration much worse. But needs talking (audio books, podcasts, sport radio) to slow multiple thoughts whirring enough to get to sleep - and not music. Endlessly tried though to do what was expected.

Oh yeah and my other DD is waiting for an assessment and is so, so different to the DD with the diagnosis.

No filter - any thoughts that enter her brain immediately exit through her gob, can go through 50 conversation topics in 10 seconds, does not ever ever ever ever ever stop talking, doesn't stick to hobbies or collections at all - has the sticking power of a piece of wet furry blu-tack.

But funny as hell, smart as anything!

Do your girls have medication, how do you manage it? I recognise some of these, although I sense possible autism too, but the psychiatrist thinks definitely not

My DD is very similar (minus the people pleaser aspect), although she is also very well behaved in class.
she actually forgot to put pants on one day.
everything takes a very long time for her to complete.