To not want dp to work more?

[BelleSauvage9]

3 dc (13, 2 and 1).

Dp currently leaves for work at 6:30am and gets home at 6pm (mon-fri). I'm a sahm atm.

Dp wants to start working Saturdays for a (unspecified) period of time in the hope that it will help boost career. I would be fine with this down the line when we don't have young children, but I'm against it atm as they are young and full on and I want his support and presence at the w/e. Dc1 also plays football every Saturday and I hate having to do the matches by myself with both toddlers in tow.

He says he hates being poor. I would say that we manage okay, our bills are paid, we have plenty of food, we manage to go out and do things on occasion etc. We can typically afford one uk holiday a year. I would much rather his presence than some extra money. He thinks I'm being unreasonable, am I??

What about family life, though? What is the point of them being together and having children if they don't get to spend any time all together?

Doing all the parenting for small children six days per week is very hard and very lonely - having been there myself, I would really try to push back on this one, OP.

@Completelyjo I don't berate him for getting a sandwich, I'm not sure where you've got that from?? I specifically said I'm not bothered about his spending, and I never complain or make comments about how he chooses to spend our money. I was just making the point to those who said maybe he's worried about finances because people who are worried about finances typically try to cut down their spending where they can and he doesn't really.

I get people don't want to only have money for essentials but as I said we can afford some luxuries (obviously what is considered luxuries is specific to each persons situation, and for those with less money luxuries are things like going out for a meal on occasion or buying new clothes rather than second hand ones etc, as opposed to expensive new tech or nice abroad holidays for example). Neither one of us spends lots day to day but we just aren't people that buy lots of stuff.

And yes to those who get my point of having to care for children for 6 days all by myself. The 5 days alone are tough, but that's what I signed up for, I just didn't sign up for more than that, and don't want to take that hit for a bit of extra money that we can get by without for now. And as mentioned it also leaves little family time, dp currently gets home from work just in time for dinner, bath and bedtime and would only have one day a week for quality time, as well as most definitely not wanting to spend his one day off doing housework so I would be having to shoulder all of that as well as childcare (I already do the vast vast majority of housework as I'm the sahp, this would definitely become all if he was working 6 days a week).

Working evenings are out for me because both small ones breastfeed to sleep and still wake unpredictably. I intend to try and wean our 2 year old within the next 6 months though, and our younger one a while after. Once they're weaned then that may be a possibility.