Men just want me to be their bit on the side

[cadburyegg]

I've been single 4 years since splitting with exh, I've dabbled in dating apps but not had a real relationship, men very keen to meet but have never got as far as a third date. I am not desperate to meet anyone by any means l. I am quite happy single.

A couple of years ago a gardener who I have known for years, did some work for me (fencing, patio work etc) then kept bombarding me with texts wanting me to send naked pics to him, even turned up at my house without warning wanting a shag. He was married with 2 kids who go to the same school my kids go to.
Just had a tradesman complete some work on the house, guttering etc, almost as soon as he left today he sent me a flirty text making it obvious he wants more. He's probably 15 years older than me and also married.

Sick of this. I must give off some desperate vibe even though I am absolutely not. Do men just see a single mum and think damsel in distress. Like I said I am quite happy single and not in a rush to get into a relationship and I am definitely not up for entering into an affair. Sigh. Just wanted to moan.

Ohhhh I think I give off the same vibe! Sometimes men take friendliness for much more 🤢 I haven't had it as badly as you though! Normally if I tell them I'm not interested a few times, they get the message. If not, threatening to tell their wives tends to work ;)

Be very assertive and to the point with men. Never be thankful or tell them you’re single. Be v wary about tradespeople in your home because these were taking the piss. Don’t make tea, coffee, or offer anything. If they are late tell them you’re cancelling. Demand respect and you’ll get it. Forget dating until you feel more confident. Get therapy.

There are plenty of men who believe that any positive attention/reaction from a woman they would shag means that they have a chance. Smiling, laughing, listening to them, talking to them - anything. You won’t be the only woman customer that those men have contacted.