WWYD unsure what to say to colleague DV

[WorriedColleague]

Name changed as very outing.
My female colleague has been in a relationship with an ex male colleague for about a year. The male colleague was some months ago struck off our professional register due to violence towards a previous girlfriend and lying to our professional body. He (obviously) lost his job.
He now has found a job in a less fastidious country, 8hr flight away. She is going with him in a voluntary role; she will need to return to the UK periodically as she is an EU National. He is British.

Do I open a discussion with her wrt keeping an escape fund, does she really know what she is doing etc?
Do I keep my mouth shut?
She has (I think) sensible family. His story is in the public domain.
WWYD?

What's your relationship with the female colleague? Are you friends too?
Did she work with him at your current firm while he was being struck off and fired, or are you unsure whether she knows the history?

There's not a lot you can do really.

Just make sure she knows you're there for unjudgmental support at any time and she can call you if need be.

Does her family know about his history?

Our relationship is friendly but not friends iyswim.
Yes, she knows all about it - was his girlfriend friend throughout his hearings and spoke in his defence (mind blowing).

I don't know for a fact her family know: her mother is also a professional in another sphere so would know exactly the meaning of being struck off.

Honestly if she knows about his past already and still wants to continue the relationship then there isn’t much you can do.

If there are news links or anything you could anonymously send if you can find her family online?

It likely won't make much difference since she knows everything and is defending him though.

It's one of those awful situations where its just going to have to play out, and I hope your colleague doesn't come to any harm.

She is making her choices, however stupid they may be.

If she knows all about it there isn’t much you can do sadly. She’s already decided she thinks he’s alright despite his past.

I know 2 people who were warned about partners but the abusers are almost always master manipulators that will be feeding you lies about how their ex partners are crazy, made it all up etc. At that point they are usually being extremely charming and kind towards you, so you get sucked in and believe them because there’s no way that this lovely man who brings you flowers every week and helped your mum fix her car could possibly have done that to whatsherface.

Both people I know learnt the hard way unfortunately. It’s awful but just not sure there’s much anyone else can do.

It's kind that you're concerned but I don't think you can do much. She is aware of his history. Remain open and unjudgemental but don't pry.

Perhaps sign up as a MH first aider to mark yourself out as someone willing to speak? If she's a professional and has a family who are too, plus he lives abroad, it sounds like she has access to escape funds plus somewhere to go, so I wouldn't be too concerned on the logistics front. i think you may need to remain unjudgemental and let this play out.

Absolutely tell her!!
she may not care though. I know someone who is with a man who is waving his red flags in everyone’s face (he can be googled) yet this usually strong woman is in denial!