Share your story, parents bad behaviour

[AylesBuck]

Hi everyone,

A discussion in another thread got me thinking about bad school parent behaviour.
Would you mind sharing your worst experiences or stories?

I’ll start: We had this one popular mom who was oddly obsessed with everyone’s grades/ achievements/ reading levels, etc, but in a very creepy and obsessive way. She’d even invite kids over for playdates just to interrogate them about their progress or tell them off for supposedly being mean to her child at school. Also texting in the middle of the night about some incident that happened at school, expecting an immediate explanation and apology for her child.

Seems quite an unpleasant thread : just inviting people to be nasty about other parents.

Sharing an experience isn’t being nasty.
For some parents the school experience can be quite intense!
It looks like some parents have a very smooth sailing but that’s not my experience.
I assume it all went well for you.

Well the example you gave OP just seems venting against a woman you dislike because she was popular.

I see, so from the whole example you think I disliked her because she was popular? 🤔
Not at all, it was more to highlight the fact that she was nice on the surface but mean in reality. I trusted her with my year 1 child on a play date at hers, when her plan was to interrogate them about their reading, their friendships (why don’t you play with my child? Kind of question) etc… to the point of making them cry.
Will you say it’s normal behaviour and I’m nasty to talk about it?

You sound bitter and are trying to entice people to be bitter with you. The world would be a nicer place if we let things we didn't agree with wash over us or challenge them at the time. Bitching behind backs just makes you miserable.

Did you challenge her on this?
Anyone who made my child cry would be getting short-shrift to their face rather than my moaning about it on a public forum.
Have you warned the other mothers what she is like?
Perhaps AIBU isn't the right thread to get the responses you want

Of course I did challenge her and made it very clear she must not approach my child ever again. What makes you believe I didn’t?
I’m not bitter.

School, as a parent, can be so intense. I am trying to hear from parents who also had a bad experience with other parents.

Clearly none of you think it’s important nor should it be discussed. Why is that? Did you had a great experience? Were you mean to other parents or overstepped and now cringe about it?

Thank you.
No I didn’t warn anyone, I only discussed it with two mum friends (other years) but working full time I didn’t had much time around the playground to get know other parents well enough to mention it. Only years later I realise I wasn’t the only one who had a bad experience with this family.
I actually wish I had heard about this kind of situation before my children started school.
As a new parent I found it difficult to navigate the parent side of children starting school.
I wish I was told about what other parents can be like in order to react earlier and set stronger boundaries.
Hence this thread! My goal was for people to share their bad experience, for younger parents to know what it can be like and navigate it.
But looks like I’m the only one with bad experiences! 😅