One child not invited to party

[ChorltonCreamery]

We live in a major UK city but our actual community is small. Think DH is in a sports team with other dads, he coaches another sport, kids in activities etc. I go to church, APF etc.

So here at last is my AIBU.

A family is having a party but what they have done is quite I think anyway, a bit odd. They have issued separate invitations. So my son has been invited twice to same party as he knows the two children from different activities. My DD1 is invited and DH and I have separately been invited.

DD2 hasn’t been, because of her age she doesn’t know the couple’s two children.

I did text the mother she said she would get back to me when the RSVPs are in. She did say others had asked if partners/other children could come.

I am not one of those people who bring uninvited siblings to children’s parties but I think this is different as we are invited too. DH will go with the older two and I will stay home if I have to.

I have removed the poll as this family aren’t being particularly rude as they would know of my youngest but wouldn’t know them.

What is your question?
that you asked if your DD2 could come
that if she can’t you won’t go
or the fact your DD wasn’t invited

because other than the invites it all seems fine

Sounds odd, usually if you’re having a family party you invite other families in their entirety. How old is DD? If she’s a teen, probably wouldn’t want to go and could stay home alone it’s very different than if she’s a toddler! If she’s very young they’re either being really rude or really dense to think the rest of you could come without her. I’m guessing that she’s not the only one of a family left out in this way if the host has said others have been asking about siblings too…

Slightly confused...is it a children party or a family party. Understand if dd not invited as doesn't know any of the children but strange if your both invited and she not unless she a a teenager and can stay at home and be bored by a family party. Think age of children are needed x

So I guess each family members have been told they can invite the people they want to be there which is fair enough i supposel.It has thrown up some weird results with some families, but I think grubbing for an invite is rude.You could decline saying ' sorry one of us has to look after dd2'

Does the fact your son received two invites, one from each child, mean he has been counted twice in their numbers? That may give room for DD.

It sounds an oversight as an unintended consequence of a weird invitation system!