To just quit

[knowledgeablyclueless]

I know this has been done before but I could really use some experiences to feel like I'm not alone...

I started a gov job months ago in a mid level position. I joined and had no on the job training, it was literally one day of getting set up and then get to it. Prior to this I'd been at my old company for 15 years and loved it.

I joined in one capacity and was immediately seconded to another project, so splitting my time 50/50.

I have never felt so stressed, anxious, tired, stupid and overworked. I'm often working at 11pm out of fear of being seen of not doing enough.

I haven't slept for months properly and have been ill non stop.

One manager is lovely but a bit useless and the other is unbelievably intense, micromanages everything and what should take one day days 2 weeks because of all the changes they constantly request.

I genuinely can't cope anymore and have nothing left to give in any area of life atm. I often cry for hours on end feeling desperate and like I can't face another day.

What is the best way of bowing out?

Its not you; that sounds like a toxic workplace that wouldn't be good for anyone's mental health. Talk to ACAS and see what your rights are before you decide what to do.
0300 123 1100
www.acas.org.uk/contact

The best way is to stop working overtime immediately. Who is going to accuse you of not doing enough and what would be consequences of that? Nobody and none. One manager is useless and will not even notice you clocking off, the other is micromanaging so the missed deadlines is on them. You work your contracted hours and do the amount of work that fits into that. Then you close your laptop and get on with the rest of your life.

I’m retired now , looking back at the jobs I quit for pastures new, not for any other reason ( unlike your pressured situation) and I now think I should have gone to my managers for advice first.

what’s the worst they can do, you’re likely to quit anyway ..? But, you might be surprised - the nasty one might soften, they may change your role / workload etc.

you - “ can I ask your advice mr manager ? You’ve got lots of experience and know the organisation well. As a relatively new starter I could do with some guidance etc etc.”
Then given the opportunity, outline 3 problem areas and see what happens.. good luck !