Need some advice / to know if I abu? name changed for this as I find it mortifying. I have no one I can discuss this with in RL and I don’t want to bring it up until I have some idea what other people think. so been with my partner a long time now, kids etc all has been fine we’ve never really had any issues. Aware they have had some long term stomach related issues but it’s never been a massive problem, a couple of flare ups over the years which for short periods they may need to wear protection for bed for incase of accidents but it hasn’t ever bothered me and as far as I’m aware they never have had accidents when in bed next to me etc. recently my partner has been having more tummy troubles… I try and be as supportive as possible but I am really struggling with it if I’m honest. I don’t want to feel like an absolute arsehole to bring this up to them or seem unsupportive or judgemental but something just isn’t sitting right with me for some reason. So over the past few weeks most nights my partner eats much later than me and immediately starts complaining of pain and shaking and asking for a hug and “help me” and puts on a nappy. This isn’t particularly late it’s around 9.30/10pm most nights.. they are then writhing around in pain, laying ontop of me grabbing hold of me/my clothing in pain wanting comfort and reassurance from me and then they go… in the nappy. Right next to/infront of me. I find it so uncomfortable and they keep apologising saying they’re so embarrassed etc but I think there’s no need for it. Why not use the loo? I’ve mentioned that since the pain starts up as soon as you eat maybe head straight to the toilet but it’s always no I can’t it’s too uncomfortable.. I need to lay down, I can’t move I can’t get there in time but always enough time to put on a nappy. I have no problem with them wanting the extra reassurance of wearing protection in the night incase an accident happens and they wake in time and I’ve had babies so I’m no stranger to poo/unpleasant smells but I just feel like come on? I feel it’s completely different accidentally going because you’re asleep and not fully able to control yourself and being conscious, awake and still choosing to go infront of your partner? Aibu? I have had a weird feeling about it for a few days now so a couple of nights ago “went to sleep” before they did and no big display of pain, no accidents… help? How do I approach this without sounding like an incentive asshole?