To ask..how much do you socialise with your partner versus alone

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Just curious to hear what proportion of the time you go out with your partner. So for every 100 times you went for a night out/to socialise how many would be with, and how many with them?

Probably fortnightly without him, every 6 weeks with him.
DM lives an hour away and still works so we don't like to ask her to babysit more often than that and can't afford a paid babysitter often.

About 95% with husband, the rest is the odd ‘girls’ night. I much prefer socialising when it’s the 2 of us.

98% without because we haven't had a regular babysitter.

Literally we have been for a night out together about three times in ten years and I think there was an 8 year gap between the last two.

DS1 is old enough to babysit the younger ones now so hopefully we will get out more.

Also my DH is not extroverted. The friends I know who socialise with their husbands frequently have extroverted husbands.

It actually became a running joke among my friends that I made him up because nobody ever met him for years.

I would estimate 90% with DH.

65% without
35% with. We've been together 32 years, married for 21. Grown up dc

At the moment I'm on maternity leave so I'm going to baby classes alone but in the evenings or at weekends when we see friends it's always together (as our friends are the same group of people) so 100% of the time.

@AllAboutNiamh @CuteCillian On good! I was reading this thread thinking I was alone there 😂

It's probably 50/50 but it ebbs and flows, last week I was out on my own 3 nights but that's not the norm. Of our 50% together about half is with other people (I.e in a group) and half is just us 2, but we always sit together in the same room when we're home, even if we're doing our own thing (e.g me crafting while he watches sports) I think it's a good balance, I'm happy with it

More without, but depends what you call "socialising" as (for example) I go to the theatre alone.... it that "socialising" as I'm not really socialising with anyone, but I am 'going out' without him.
I also sometime meet a friend for coffee or lunch, when he is at work.... are you counting that?
What about a work night out ? I wouldn't expect him to come to that either.

70-80% without. No kids, we just have different friends. Occasionally I’ll join him and his mates and vice versa and we get on well with each others’ friends. But the stuff we do together tends to be just us two. We go on holiday a lot too. I can’t bear “couples” socialising, like a PP said it’s so forced (unless everyone was already organically friends).

I think this is probably our situation too - my husband is an introvert so likes to stick with his tried and trusted friends.

about 50/50 these days since a lot of my friends are impossible to get out since having kids. Before I mostly socialised without him. Been together 13 years.

Way more than I ever imagined. I like his friends and they became my friends. He likes my friends and they became his friends. Most of our invites are to both of us. When we socialise without each other it's usually because one of us isn't available, or it's an activity one of us isn't into, rather than because it's a friendship group only one of us is in.

I'm not sure how I feel about this because I don't like the idea of us being one of those couples joined at the hip. On the other hand it confirms that I have good taste in both friends and a partner, it's natural for everyone to get along.

At parties we work the room separately from each other though!

I'd say 70 solo 30 partner. Partly because I am more social than dh and partly due to kids. I'd say dh is 80 partner 20 solo

Hardly any with partner. We have different friends and he's not very social anyway. He's only really come out with me if it was something "big" like attending a wedding.

70/30 with partner. Our kids are older though so childcare not an issue

Same. We are happily married believe it or not!