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Adoption tracing

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Iloveyoubut · 01/10/2024 14:22

I’m posting here for traffic and help. My paternal gran died about 19 years ago. Afterwards it transpired through a family member (I don’t really know this family member at all so can’t reach out) that my gran had had a daughter who was adopted out (don’t even know if it was legal or not) this woman had reached out after waiting for her adoptive mum (parents, I don’t know) and I was so sad that a. She’s reached out just after her biological mum had died… but also that my father and his brother didn’t want to know and refused contact. I was very unwell at the time and also frightened of family members who are no longer here or I am no longer afraid of. I think about her all the time. All I have is a first name a city and an approximate year of birth but I do know that all those years ago she traced us. I’m trying to find her before it’s too late .. hopefully… she must be nearly 70. I can’t ask the couple of family members I have (who I don’t get on with anyway) as it’s a ‘no go’ but I really cannot stand the thought of this woman reaching out and thinking she wasn’t wanted or loved because I would love to have her as an aunt regardless of who she is … can anyone give me any help on how to go about where to start? All I can see is ancestry etc and I have no surname but as I say … I know she made contact with so obviously traced a family member almost 20 years ago. Thank you so much anyone who could point me in any direction at all. It’s all happened within the Uk. Thanks again.

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Iloveyoubut · 01/10/2024 17:30

Anyone?

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Lammveg · 01/10/2024 17:34

Would you consider one of those DNA services like 23 and me? I know some people are wary of using them though.

Songlines · 01/10/2024 17:43

There's a great FB group called Finding Long lost family and Friends (or something like that)
Full of really helpful knowledgeable people. Try posting in there?

cherrytree12345 · 01/10/2024 17:52

All UK councils have adoption teams. I suggest you contact the team at your local council and they will advise you what is possible and how to go about a search. Anyone conducting an official search has to go through this process as they can access records that you cannot access yourself

PleaseStopEatingMyStuff · 01/10/2024 17:52

Bumping for you. This is so sad, I'm sure being rejected was terribly hard for her.
Occasionally on my local town Facebook site someone will put a post up trying to trace someone from the area, they seem to do pretty well and most people want to help. You could be slightly vague if you didn't want to disclose it was due to adoption.
I hope you get some success. I'm sure she would love to hear from you & know you care.

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