To think friend doesn’t like me looking nice?

[waitingintheyard]

When I say nice I mean just looking better than I usually do, I’m average but like most I look a better version of myself when I make an effort.

Friend showed me a nail Instagram her cousin goes to and I said “oh I might try it” and she said “no don’t because your nails will look better than mine”. Said half as a joke but there was a serious undertone.

Then when I saw her this weekend I’d had LVL lashes and she asked about it straight away and said she’s now needs to get hers done.

I styled my hair nice (for once) because I have the Dyson Airwrap and the next day she went out and bought the Shark version.

I don’t know … it’s like she can’t stand for me to just look better than I usually do and she has to do the same. As truthfully I would say she is the prettier friend.

Hmmm not sure really.

Lots of friends share tips on what to buy and where to buy it etc.

When you see a friend's hair or nails for example are looking nice, does it never spur you on to finally get round to doing something about your own appearance (if you've been thinking about it for a while?)

There's two ways to look at this really and you've chosen the negative one.

Sounds like she made a poor joke about the nails, and that is colouring your view of everything else.

Surely seeing what friends have done is a normal way to get a bit of inspiration - take it as a compliment!

I feel like you are projecting here somehow.

It is not the actual content of what you say but more like the tone you use

'she can't stand it...' etc

I would be devastated if female friends all thought like this when sharing tips

There literally doesnt have to be an underlying current to everything - she could be complementing you - have you thought of that

Only you can know if this is coming from a place of competition or a place of just sharing and liking what you have done and trying it themselves.

Most true friends won't compete with each other there are however some women who do.

I remember being a bridesmaid as was my other "friend". She spent ages sending photos talking to the hair and make up people about what she wanted and how it had to be exact (she was the most demanding in the room way more then the bride!!!)
She then got in a huff with me as she said my hair looked better (I just said do whatever the bride has requested for bridesmaids). She was a nightmare the whole day and I phased her out shortly after as I realised it always had to be about her (even on someone else's wedding day!)

Oh dear, I hope my friends don’t think I do this, I certainly don’t think it when they do it! I’ve often been spurred on to get something done as I’ve seen how good it looks on a friend. If anything it’s a compliment, not that I want to look better than them.