Ok so we have met some new friends.. their daughter has just started at my sons school, we’ve seen each other at a couple of school events and they’ve invited us over for lunch this weekend with the kids. I am really crap with etiquette, knowing what to take etc. We have another set of friends we met in a similar circumstance and when we go over we drink excessively as they love champagne and seem to handle their drink well, and it always feels a bit too much so I want to start this new friendship with a fresh start!
When we last saw them they mentioned food maybe a BBQ weather permitting and nice wine etc.
Now with this previous friendship group I end up taking wine/champagne and drinking a lot, being far to drunk and regretting it the next day… plus it’s a play date for kids too so it seems wrong!!
I am quite insecure and tend to worry what others think of me and really want to fit in but also not lose myself. I realised when we last saw other friends, we are quite different and although we share a lot of interests, she’s very much in to politics whereas I know nothing about this and it made me feel a bit stupid, not that she expected me to know! As I said they like nice food, champagne and have a lovely house. New friends also have a lovely house, bigger than ours and I know it isn’t about that at all but I don’t know, I just want to make a good impression!!
So can you help me.. My plan is to take nice wine that I like, some flowers and maybe some sweets for the kids. I plan to make sure I’ve eaten breakfast that morning and don’t overdo it on the wine! I mean a glass or two is normal right?! I mean I feel stupid even asking these questions but I am not from a family who host parties and my parents never had people round so I feel like I don’t know what I am doing but I want to learn! I even struggle with conversational topics as don’t want to seem boring but also don’t want to over share/sound like I’m prying!!
Any advice welcome!!