Crap evening out

[Hernamewaslola22]

I've just had a shit evening out and I just need to talk about it really. I live alone so no one to speak to. My friend started off by ranting for half an hour about various things from her weekend which is fine but then said she hadn't really wanted to come to what we were doing because she was tired which just made me feel a bit rubbish. Then all evening I just felt like nothing I said was right, she was super tense. She mumbles quite a lot and once I had to ask her to repeat something twice and she got huffy with me about it. Then I wanted to go to the toilet before we did the 45 minute drive home and she got really annoyed because there was a queue so I ended up just saying let's just go. I feel crap.

I rarely get to go out and had been looking forward to it :(

That sounds shit, sorry you’ve had a bad evening. Is she always like that?

Fairly often.

She wasn't always but more so over the last few years.

She needs to be an ex friend

It's just left me feeling really sad.

She sounds like a daytime coffee or matinee film friend not a night out friend.

She came across as stressed that gave the evening a downer but on the bright side, she turned up and didn't want it let you down.

Any chance of arranging a other night out with more like minded people?

Stop feeling sad and start feeling annoyed.

we all have lives and we are all busy (in different ways for different people) but a friendship like any other relationship takes work and needs respect and care for each other equally for it to be fulfilling for both parties.

this friend doesn’t sound like she treats you very well so why are you wasting your time and energy on her?

I might not be able to speak or meet my friends as often as I’d like but that’s partly because when I do I make sure I have the time and space to actually spend meaningful time with them because I care for them and that’s what they deserve. So if that means I can only call or see them every so often but properly then that’s the way it has to be. It would be unfair to say yes to them then sit miserable and clock watching because actually I don’t have the brain capacity or time to talk on the phone/see them!

that’s not to say I just disappear or ignore them for weeks and months obviously

stop being in friendships with people who don’t treat you the way you deserve. Learn your worth @Hernamewaslola22

im sorry you had such a shitty night!

Agree with previous poster- switch from giving her an evening to saying you’ll meet her on your lunch hour or for an hour of a weekend when you’re en route to somewhere else. She should really be apologising once she’s out of her funk.