To just cannot be bothered anymore

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You know when you reasonably ask your other half to do something really mundane like move the planks of wood they've got lying against the side of the house? And eight weeks later they still haven't? Well, that really. Probably a massive first world problem but I guess the backstory is DH doesn't like it when I tidy his stuff because I'm ruthless. I bin things & tidy properly. He's a messy hoarder.
Every weekend is taken up with something else like sport, DC's sport, extracurricular fixtures which is part of his job as he coaches sport & works in a school so the house stuff doesn't get done. There's loadsa other bits I've asked him to do but he's just lying on the couch. I would happily do them but he's not happy then as he doesn't like the way I'd do it which would involve a massive tip run.
I just feel like it's not important to him so it doesn't matter but if I've asked & he still doesn't do it then he's being a controlling lazy feck & I'm literally on a four year countdown 'til youngest DC finishes A Levels & he can take his garage full of crap & find somewhere else to live.
Everything is in my name due to his appalling credit rating when we met.
I could be being very unreasonable though....

You’re not being unreasonable. Your ideas about running a household together don’t sound compatible. Some couples can make that work if they’re massively compatible in other ways and both are able to compromise somewhat.

the credit rating and everything having to be in your name raises other issues. It suggests his messy, full of loose ends, lazy approach to your home is a bigger part of his character and general approach to life. That would drive me mad.

@LauritaEvita That is pretty much it. We've been married ages though so starting afresh is a bit worrying?
I met a couple through work who've been married 62 years. I asked how many life sentences that was. She replied, four 😂

Oh yes, it’s a massive decision. I wonder what he’d think if he knew you were even vaguely considering a future without him? Would that motivate him to change? Would he be capable of that? And do you even want him to change at this point or are you done? These are the things to think about. It really depends on what other positives and negatives there are about your lives together.

As a side note, I am messy and a bit haphazard (although have always had job and money sorted). My OH is organised and likes everything to have a place. I know it makes him happy and is so much less stressful for him when I pull my finger out and get organised, so I try to do for him what doesn’t come naturally for me. Making a happy home requires effort from both of you to try and do what suits the other. If he knows his ways upset and stress you, then really that should be his motivator to change.

Set a deadline of the next school holidays and say your getting rid if he doesn't find time then. Term time he will be fucking knackered