Context. Met a lady with alot of issues, bullied, doesn't mix with anyone and has no friends at all aside from me. She has a daughter same age as mine.
I felt for her I really did, when we met and quite admired her strength to over come that stuff. But...
As times gone on I've seen alot of things I wish I hadn't. She tells at her toddler so badly, treats the kids awful and pushes them about just abit too roughly and as much as she declares she loves them, I find it a little awkward to watch.
My daughter has been put in a class with her daughter. And has increasingly tried to stop her playing with others. My daughter is standing up for everyone and herself against this. It's driving her insane. I spoke to school calmly. Said "friend" got wind via her daughter . And was told a very different story and I got a barrage of angry texts saying so. I kept cool.
Aside from this she bullies me basically into doing alot for her. I'm the one to call if she wants her daughter to have a lift
I've been put down as a person to collect her toddler from pre school, without being asked I was told
I've been told I have to help her with something to do with my job on a weekend, which I already expressed I didn't want to work weekends anymore, "you'll do it for me, though!"
She was looking at getting a job which meant long hours. And I ofcourse was going to be having her kids 2x day a week. Was I asked? No was I told yes!!!
The thing that's put me over the edge is how she reacted to news that her cherub (put in the kindest context mind you) was not. And I was told girls will be girls! And it's all of them, I do not believe she says nasty things, she said they are meant from a kind place.
I now feel it's my fault for being such push over type, truth is I'm just kind I need to learn to be saying no when i do say no she gets weird.
I now have suggested the girls have space. And tbh I want space too, indefinitely
I'm aware I have to see this person every day at school. How do I navigate? I need help being kind but firm. Thankyou