10 year olds accessing pornhub :/

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So my 11 year old DD came home from playing with outside with some friends and told me in confidence that two of her younger mates had been accessing pornhub. They didn't do it infront of her or the other kids present but it was mentioned and the boys were laughing about it. We had (several) chats about it and discussed why watching porn is not a great idea. She seems OK about everything but has asked me not to tell on her friends.

So I am at a bit of a loss about how to proceed. On the one hand I don't want to break her confidence as it could damage our relationship. It would be impossible to alert the mums witout mentioning my DD and no saying if they would tell their kids she snitched on them. On the other hand I worry about the boys and the impact this might have on spreading the use of porn in their school. It's a very small school which my DD also goes to.

If I dod approach the boys mothers Iam apprehensive about how they might react. Internet rules for the kids vary greatly in our community and I am known for being quite strict. So a bit worried they would receive my hearts up as some massive critisism.

I did think of speaking to the school and asking them to step in. Not telling them the names of the boys but just that this is happening in the class. They could then potentially alert the parents...

I could off course do nothing and mind my own business! I discussed this with my DH who thinks I should keep out of it but it doesn't sit right with me. If this was my kid I'd want to know....

So what would you do?

1. Tell the mums privately one on one
2. Tell the school and hope they handle it
3. Do nothing

What difference will 6 months make?

Will be the same thing en masse, just 6months later.

Thanks everyone for your feedback! It's really helpful in order to think this one through.

So this actually happened on school grounds but after school hours. So aside from them all going to the same school it actually happened there. Furthermore school allows them to have their smartphones in their bags on silent. So easy access during breaks and before/after class of they want. So do feel like there is a strong school link.

My DD isn't good friends with them. They were all outside playing in a group of about 10 kids. It was more of a coincidence that they were togeather at this time.

I do know the mums but have reservations about telling them due to personality. Both mums seem a bit unpredictable, volatile even ,and honestly not sure how they would react. They have very different views on smarphone usage from myself. A fact that I have discussed with them before. I am fairly strict and limit both time and access. They do not.

So at the moment I am leaning towards school as the best way to approach the situation.

I would tell the school, but also give the kids names in confidence as they need safeguarding too.

So I ended up telling the school. I had a good chat with the principle who was very pleased I brought the issue to them. They are taking multiple steps to address the situation. Wont go into details but happy about what they are doing.

I did tell the principle who the individuals were as, like some of you pointed out, it can be a safeguarding issue and I am obviously not privy to knowing if there are any other issues regarding the boys. Guess there might have been some prehistory (or I am not the first one to flag this) as the principle immediately guessed the name of one of the boys involved before I had a chance to tell.

Well done OP, you did the right thing and I'm glad the school are responding well to it.