Young woman (19/20), drunk in the pub flitting between men, many of whom were twice her age. She was clearly known in the pub but was out alone (zero judgement before anyone suggests that, I’m just making the situation clear), she had tried to flirt with my DH a number of times to the point of stroking his arm. DH was polite but firm and told me how uncomfortable the whole situation was and we briefly discussed how her behaviour and demeanour suggested she was already a vulnerable young woman being made more vulnerable by the setting.
At that point I heard her make a comment which again just showed her vulnerability so I politely and nicely took her to one side and told her she was a beautiful young lady who didn’t need to look for validation from these men, the good ones would feel uncomfortable and the shitty ones would take advantage of her, she deserved better for herself and to treat herself more kindly, I said more but it gives you an idea of the conversation. She started crying and said thank you to me, I hope that having someone tell her those things would help her maybe not today but at some point.
Now I’m wondering if I was just an interfering dickhead that made her feel bad about herself