AIBU that my DH should not go to work tomorrow?

[Sophie2525]

So my DH work includes driving on the motorway, assisting accidents.

He had been out drinking since 12noon today, probably wont be home until 11pm (was only suppose to going for a few)
Surely he will be over the limit tomorrow (he starts at 6am)

Am i being OTT, should I encourage him to not go in tomorrow? or will he be okay? 😬

If he's drinking till 11pm yes will be over the limit more than likely

If he has been drinking alcohol all that time then no, he wont be ok to drive.

If he's had three pints over the 11 hours of drinking, of course he'll be fine but I'm guessing that is not the case... he really shouldn't be driving if he's drinking heavily with just a 7 hour break.

He shouldn’t - but what on earth possessed him to do that?

Depends how much he’s drunk in that time? Might he have switched to soft drinks? If he’s been drinking solidly though then of course he cannot drive.

He’s definitely drinking a lot, it’s just what he does when he’s out (not very often)

Has he been drinking constantly the whole time? How much?

I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty sure he’s been drinking constantly

I don't think it's your responsibility, he can decide for himself. I would hope as he has a job doing motorway rescues he wouldn't drive drunk as that's just outrageous, frankly. So hopefully he's got on the soft drinks. If not he's a danger himself to the people he should be helping, that's very very worrying.

Honestly, if my DH was attempting to go to work (driving on the motorway) while still over the limit i'd probably phone the police on him myself.
The best case scenario is he loses his job. Worst case is he kills someone

Is he planning to go in, is he going to phone in sick or is he not on the roads tomorrow (perhaps doing someting different)?

Does seem odd he hasnt thought it through but then you are assuming that he is consistently drinking throughout. Perhaps he isnt and wont be over the limit tomorrow?

Of course he can’t drive if he is over the limit. It’s entirely his responsibility to prevent that happening though, which hopefully means he hasn’t drunk much alcohol or has swapped his shift without you realising. If he is assisting at accidents, presumably some will have police there and they are likely to smell the alcohol on him.

Seeing as you don't know much he's been drinking or what his day looks like tomorrow, I'd say you can't do much, really.

Is he prepared to lose his job? I can't imagine someone working on the roads helping in accidents whilst drink driving would have any chance of keeping his job. Unless you can live on just your income then I think it is your business to make sure he doesn't go into work tomorrow. If he still goes in he's a dick and you have much bigger issues.

Of course not. I would be hiding the keys so he could not.

If this was me I'd be far too tired to do a job like that safely after a day out like that and max 6 or so hrs sleep. Regardless of any drinking.

What's he done in the past?

Because I don't believe it's the first time he's ever done this.

He may only arrive home later at the time he is due to leave for work

It's no help this time, but for the future, it might be worth while to get hold of one of those breathalyser kits you used to have to carry in the car in France, and make him take the test in the morning, so that he can see for himself that he will lose licence, job and all if some other car runs into him and he is breathalysed by the police on his way in to work after being on the lash for the whole of the previous day.

My daughter, in the forces, always used to carry one and check if she was safe to drive on the morning after a bevvy the night before. She would have been cashiered for drink-driving so she didn't want to risk it.