To have sent him back?

[Busydayaheadtoday]

My brother is staying with us for a bit. DH is away today so I’m alone with the children (3 and 1.)

Brother is staying in a granny annexe but does come into the house a lot which is fine but after dinner things get a bit mad and I asked him to go back to his room. He huffed off all hurt. I feel bad so asking here … AIBU?

Was he being disruptive?

No, but someone sitting there while I bust my arse just makes me feel all annoyed. And he has a strange sense of humour so finds it hilarious (and brings it up for weeks later) if one of them has a tantrum.

It's your house, your rules.

I’d be pissed off if he was just sitting there not offering to help and also making jokes like that.

Is your brother a teen/child?

No he’s in his forties!

If by “for a bit” you mean weeks or months, YANBU. If it’s a few days, it was a bit rude.

He sounds like an immature bore. YANBU.

Why not give him a job to do?

Yeah I get this, it's stressful trying to deal with the madness and it's a not a spectator sport, it makes it worse to have someone in th midst of it observing

That’s exactly what it is.

@Busydayaheadtoday I think I’d have said “either help out or go away” 🫣😂

Problem is his help is not helpful … it’s stressful.

I won’t when it comes to my family.. I really care for them

Is he staying for a few days or a few weeks? If he’s a guest then I wouldn’t have but if he’s staying for longer as a favour, not a guest then yes I’d be honest and say it’s stressful so could he give you some space. When we have guests they seem to realise this and purposefully stay out the way

If you're close enough to your brother to give him a roof over your head, for him to stroll in and out of your rooms and for him to tease and laugh at you, then you're close enough to tell him to sling his hook when you've had enough of him.

He’s been with us since may and will be for a while yet, so it’s not just a few days. I could tolerate it if it was.