Dd (2.5) has been under the weather with a cold and molars coming through, was thinking of taking her to doctor tomorrow if no better but thought I'd see how she went today, as wasn't sure how much of it was actually just due to the teething and didn't want her to have an antibiotic unnecessarily.
Anyway, my mother came to visit today, always prone to making everything a drama anyway and always making out I'm a crap mother and doing everything wrong. She spent the whole day making pointed comments about dd being "so ill", every time I turned my back she was examining her, when they came back from the park dd said "please get me some medicine mummy" so clearly my mother had told her to tell me to take her to the doctor (which she admitted) Fussed and I mean REALLY fussed (all she said all day was "you poor little angel" over and over again) over her all day, and completely ignored ds (11 months).
Later my mother then actually started crying (!!!) in front of dd, saying "this child is really sick", was really upset for ages, as if she was at death's door ffs!! Then 10 mins before tea stuffed her full of sweets and then dd wouldn't eat any tea.
Made me really mad as I love dd dearly and would never neglect her health if she was really ill, as I told mum I will take her to doc tomorrow anyway, but ffs it's a cold kids get them, no need for such a drama! the whole day there was implied criticism that I was being neglectful as a mother.
She has always been like this since dd was born, I know she just loves her, but she also practically ignores ds much of the time, and am getting sick of the constant hinting that I am being a rubbish mother (and this from a woman who things car seats are ridiculous and practically force feeds dd sweets and chocolate all day).
Am I being silly to be so upset about this?