My husband lied to me

[Cheekymonkye]

Honestly I see these types of posts all the time on here, and am always so grateful for the relationship between my husband and I.

but it’s transpired today that he has lied to me. Fairly small lie in the grand scheme of things, he was asked to do something that only he could do, and he told me he had definitely done it and explained the resuolution.

turns out it was a big steamy pile of shit , and he had never done the original action. It has caused an inconvenience for the last two weeks to the three household members.

when I called him out on his lie , he said it was the easiest thing to tell me at the time , and it’s not a big deal .

im really upset. I honestly thought that we didn’t do that sort of shit to each other and pissed off that he hasn’t even bothered to say sorry

for context he’s been quite a good husband and father over the last 20 years but honestly it’s left me wondering what I can trust.

am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?

What didn't he do?

I understand why you're upset, but... it sounds like he lied because was worried about your reaction. Is there a history of him avoiding conflict, or you reacting badly when there's a problem, or both?

Maybe this could prompt a conversation about communication, how you deal with problems in the relationship, expectations, etc. - as it doesn't seem as though he lied for personal gain or to be sneaky or because he's fundamentally dishonest, just to avoid the conflict. Correct me if I'm wrong, though.

Obviously it depends what it was but I would struggle with why he felt the need to lie in the first place. I would find it hard to trust him going forward

Yes that’s a good idea. No I don’t feel he’s dishonest as such , I honestly think he said he had for an easy life .

it’s normally me that avoids conflict out of the two of us , but he’s not particularly argumentative, fall outs are few and far between

@Cheekymonkye obviously that's still not great and it's really annoying that he caused you such an inconvenience, but sounds like the lesser of evils!

Let me guess, something to do with clothes?

It's definitely in no way your fault that your husband chose to be a liar.

And yes, it's concerning.

Interesting that posters are suggesting that it's the OP's fault......

It depends what he was asked to do

flame me now but I’ll lie for a quiet life

Why was it the easiest thing for him to tell you? Is there a back story? Do you nag him?

But yeah he shouldn't be lying about anything.

I expect most people have at some point lied when asked if they had done something they were supposed to but hadn't

You need to tell us what the lie was about so we can judge

I’d be more concerned that he’s inconvenienced 3 of you more than that he’s lied. Just why has he done that?

Why lie when it's obvious you'll find out and be annoyed twice over. Surely he could of lied then got it done asap

Love this website sometimes.

Man needlessly lies to woman causing multi week long inconvenience to three people within the household.

Must be woman's fault.

Is it not unblocking a toilet?

It really depends on what the lie was but I think we all tell little white lies and i highly doubt this is the first time in 20yrs hes lied to you. Just the first time you found out. The fact he lied so casually and then didn't even offer a half hearted sorry for putting people out seems off imo.

I'm not saying leave the b*stard, especially if he's been a good partner otherwise. But I'd definitely be less nieve.