AIBU to seek a diagnosis of adhd as an adult

[ForRoseMember]

Basically I've had a discussion with my partner that I think I may have adhd.

I feel like I have masked significantly for most of my life although some issues are very prominent.

He basically told me he doesn't think I have it and there's no point to a diagnosis. Then started on a rant about how everyone is getting diagnosed these days and it's ridiculous and untrue.

I've been left feeling very misunderstood, fobbed off and upset by out conversation. It was almost like he was implying that people look for diagnosis for attention. Which is not the case. I'm really looking to gain some perspective on my difficulties and differences that I experience and hopefully gain some coping strategies to help me functioning better. I don't think that's unreasonable?

I went to GP last week and asked for a referral! I’m an adult too btw. I’m the same as you in the sense that I want to understand why I am the way I am and feel a diagnosis would help moving forward. If it’s what you want to do then do it! Not unreasonable at all to seek clarification regarding your own life.

You need a new partner. What an ableist asshole.

Go ahead if YOU want to, it seems everyone seems to be seeking a diagnosis for adhd at the moment though so be aware the wait lists are long.

YANBU. I was diagnosed about 3 years ago in my late 30s. It was the best thing I've done. The medication has changed my life.
Ditch your partner though.