Hi,
Just looking for some advice please.
My husband left me 8 years ago for a women 10 years younger and lied about it for a long time. DC were very young at the time 5 and 3. He didn't have the children overnight for 5 years as he was lying about his living arrangements. I threw myself in to being a full time mum and working full time. Luckily my parents are a great help. I found going through the whole divorce process very traumatic.
4 years ago I met a man. He is very sweet and kind and he has 1 son. After the traumatic time I had I certainly wasn't rushing anything and he had been through a very messy divorce 2 years earlier. It suited me at first that we led our own lives but that I also had someone for company.
4 years later I have still have not met his parents and they don't even know about me. They phoned last night to say they were popping in and I had to leave!! We are grown adults in our 40's and don't need to be sneaking around.
When we are together he is lovely but I am well aware that our lives are very separate. I will always put my children first and I like that in him but it is like he is obsessed with his son. He fought hard in court to have 50:50 and I love that he wants to be in his life. Especially as my ex hardly sees my kids. However, it is like an obsession and he plots ways to try and have his son more. His parents are also heavily involved with the boy and I find it very oppressive.
Do I stay in the relationship. I still harbour a lot of hurt and resentment towards my ex which I know isn't healthy but find myself burnt out most of the time juggling the kids and working full time! I am hardly a catch myself! How do I improve my life!
Thanks for reading!