Daughter doesn't want to stay at her dad's

[GeorgieTK]

So my 15 year old daughter has said for months now she doesn't like sleeping over at her dad's house- the only reason being she likes her own bed and her own room (she shares with sibling at his house). It's only once every 2 weeks but I think at 15 she should be allowed to choose (she would still see him for the day)- so AIBU in allowing her the choice? Or should I be making her go?

She's old enough to decide for herself.

Definitely old enough to decide for herself. Overnight stays will taper out eventually anyway; it may as well be at the time she’s ready for them to stop.

Absolutely old enough to decide, legally and morally.

YANBU she is old enough to make her own choice, I would still expect her to spend some time there but just not overnight.

I'd let her decide. There could be a bigger reason at play here , there probably isn't , but it's important that you listen to her either way.

At 15 she is definitely old enough to decide for herself and her reason is legitimate.

Old enough, if she doesn't want to go that should be enough.

This has happened to us to . My Dd no longer stays over she is almost 14 . Ex DP didn’t react well at all and blamed me .

she now won’t go over hardly at all but I think she is old enough to decide . I think it naturally stopped but I would prefer she has some contact

Feel free to tell me to mind my own business but why would you prefer more contact? I’m not judging you at all; I’ve been that child (although a younger age) so interested in hearing another side of it.

I'd she's old enough to make the decision she's old enough to explain her decision to her dad.

Just get her to speak to him and explain why she'd rather have her own bed. It's not like she won't be visiting.

It's up to her. My DD has never enjoyed sleeping so did every Sunday (around sports matches) instead of EOW.
But at 15 it's down to her.

She needs to have the choice. Her relationship with her dad is more likely to be OK if she spends time with him freely.

Only to keep some relationship I’m worried it will be damaged forever . I totally don’t want to force her to go but I can understand why her dad is upset . Initially he was angry and blamed me .

But I think now it’s just a natural progression . She wants to spend her weekends with friends not us . I know thousands of children do it but it must be crap living between two houses