Just woken up ugly crying due to dream, so weird.

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I had a dream that my sister died, in my dream we were still children, it was Christmas day, and I could see her ghost beside me laughing as I opened my presents and I was begging her to haunt me forever.

Gosh I’m crying again just typing it. Anyway I’ve woken up and my pillow is sodden, my eyes and nose are streaming, my face is red and puffy, I feel en emotional wreck, but I’ve got to go to work and be a normal human today! I’ve got one of those faces that won’t look normal again for hours.
And I have a sudden but understandable desire to see my sister (who to is hale and hearty and about to go on a hen weekend and would quite probably be freaked out by my dream!)
Just sharing to get it off my chest, really!

Are you perimenopause? Night swears/anxiety and hot flashes during sleep can cause some really weird and disturbing dreams.

Oh OP that's a sad dream. It would leave me feeling a bit upset/anxious as well!

Really cold water on your face, eye drops and a nice hot drink to try and look normal for work.

Have you been worrying about her lately or feeling like you miss her?
Sometimes dreams mean something, sometimes they don't!

I had the most random upsetting dream that me and DD were being held hostage last night, the dream was like a full soap opera went on all night! Was glad when it finished.

I’m 38 so possibly peri menopausal?

I haven’t been worrying about her, but I received a small parcel from her yesterday which was nice, and might have stirred up some “wish she was here” emotions at a subconscious level. Would make sense with the christmas present opening connection in the dream as well.
The brain is such a mysterious thing!

Sorry you had a horrible dream too @HiveMindEchoChamber, it’s not a great way to start the day is it x

It's cute that you love her so much

You really love your sister, that's something really special 💗 looks at own falling apart relationship with sibling
I have some pretty horrendous dreams mainly about being at war. Shudders.

This has happened to me once before. Also woken myself up in hysterics which is much nicer.

I've been having awful dreams for the last few weeks. I dread going to sleep I dreamt my mum died and since that dream everyone around me is dying in my dreams.

The hysterics ones are funny as you try and recount it and share it when you wake up, still whil being in hysterics, and it's just not as funny to someone else 😂

It’s an hour since I woke up but thinking about it sets me off again (yes I do know I need to stop thinking about it!!) It’s as though this dream has released some real grief from somewhere inside me, because obviously I’m not actually grieving my sister, but the emotion I feel is so real. This could be a sort of catharsis, I suppose.

how awful for you, I hope this horrible cycle will stop soon x

I’ve had horrible dreams since being peri, some nights it’s dream after dream and I just wish it was time to get up so I can stop it.

I do love her, and we’re close in some ways but we also annoy each other a lot too. Well, I annoy her mainly! Sibling relationships are very complicated aren’t they. I hope your war dreams stop soon x

Not really relevant but I just woke up from a dream where it was Christmas Day too!

Although upsetting, it sounds to me like a wonderful beautiful dream because it gave you access to grief, which among other things is an expression of deep love.

I can't be unusual in spending a lot of my life in a kind of low-level fractured unhappiness that feels like a sort of buried uncomprehended loss. Opportunities for grief are a temporary resolution of this - as you say, a kind of catharsis.

Then of course there is the wonderful, joyful relief when you realise (and when you tell yourself again and again though the day) that it wasn't true and your dear sister is well.

Maybe you need to see more of your sister, and your subconscious is afraid the relationship is weakening on her side?

A friend once called me after having a similar dream - I could reassure her that I was alive and well, but the truth is our friendship was becoming less close for various reasons. Another friend of mine recently had a similar dream about another friend who has moved country and their level of contact is dropping away. I think it has to do with some feeling of loss, and your brain seeking an explanation.

That’s lovely, thank you x