To think this is disgusting behaviour?

babymummy123 · 2024-09-27T04:59:06+00:00

My friend told me she's stopped her baby daddy having contact with their DD because he returned to their home unexpectedly and found the baby alone in the car (9pm) and wasn't happy. The LO is only 3 months old, my friend doesn't think she's done anything wrong 🤯

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Coconutter24 · 27/09/2024 06:34

Why was the baby in the car? Some context needed. Very different situations if she put the baby in the car an hour ago for some peace or she’d just got home nipped a bag inside and was coming back for the baby

Cappuccinowithonesugarplease · 27/09/2024 06:58

More info needed, how long was the baby in the car alone for?

BigTubOfLard · 27/09/2024 06:58

Baby daddy? Did I stumble onto the Jeremy Kyle show by accident?

Edingril · 27/09/2024 07:01

Not sure how people keep up with who has what with which baby mummy or daddy on here most of the time

vodkaredbullgirl · 27/09/2024 08:29

🤔

Catza · 27/09/2024 08:30

What does it have to do with you?
I am always perplexed when people come on here and ask if another person who has nothing to do with them was rude or disgusting.
Also what's the context? Baby in a car for 5 minutes on a private drive of a farm vs baby in a car for 3 hours on a public road are two very different scenarios. So is father "wasn't happy" and calmly explaining that he disagrees with leaving baby in a car vs father shouting and being physically violent towards his ex.

Mcginty57 · 27/09/2024 08:30

Did he really though.

Albertabeech · 27/09/2024 08:32

Why was the baby alone in the car?

The courts will give him access so if the baby was in eg a locked car for 3 hours while she was at the pub and he has evidence she’s just putting herself in a bad position.

If the baby was alone in a car with the windows down for 3 minutes while she took the shopping bags in and he has no evidence then I don’t know why she would stop access.

The whole thing sounds odd.

Soditsally · 27/09/2024 08:33

OP , you'll get a much better response if you just present the true story , including who you are in all this .. rather than this half a story scenario

IntheVicinity · 27/09/2024 08:34

Soditsally · 27/09/2024 08:33

OP , you'll get a much better response if you just present the true story , including who you are in all this .. rather than this half a story scenario

Yes. Including whether the baby was in fact joyriding.

LittleGreenDragons · 27/09/2024 08:35

How long was the baby in the car for, and why was it in the car at that time? Why did the man suddenly turn up at her house at night when normal people don't visit unless invited?

So many questions...

Wishitsnows · 27/09/2024 08:36

Why is he showing up at her home unexpectedly?

Original poster

babymummy123 · 27/09/2024 10:26

Wow! I thought I had posted in a forum for adults but it seems I've stepped into the school playground with a bunch of judgemental teenagers that think they know everything about the new starter....

Sounds like you've already made up your minds but, for the record, No, he's not my boyfriend, I'm married with my own children. The mother is genuinely my friend (I know them both but Ive been friends with her for years) and I am genuinely worried that she did this as it's so out of character and then the stopping him seeing the child seems really extreme. There wasn't any shouting or violence (she's told me this) and the house he turned up at was the house they both own but neither of them are living in it since the split.

You all enjoy your narrow minded little group and I'll go and do what I should have done in the first place, ask a genuine grown up at Children's services. If I'm being unreasonable then there's nothing to worry about and if I'm not then she'll get a visit and the help I think she probably needs

OP posts:

Catza · 27/09/2024 11:43

babymummy123 · 27/09/2024 10:26

Wow! I thought I had posted in a forum for adults but it seems I've stepped into the school playground with a bunch of judgemental teenagers that think they know everything about the new starter....

Sounds like you've already made up your minds but, for the record, No, he's not my boyfriend, I'm married with my own children. The mother is genuinely my friend (I know them both but Ive been friends with her for years) and I am genuinely worried that she did this as it's so out of character and then the stopping him seeing the child seems really extreme. There wasn't any shouting or violence (she's told me this) and the house he turned up at was the house they both own but neither of them are living in it since the split.

You all enjoy your narrow minded little group and I'll go and do what I should have done in the first place, ask a genuine grown up at Children's services. If I'm being unreasonable then there's nothing to worry about and if I'm not then she'll get a visit and the help I think she probably needs

Why are you so agitated with us? You haven't given us any detail and most posters just asked you for detail.
Was the baby left in a car parked near an unoccupied property, then?

Coconutter24 · 27/09/2024 13:17

babymummy123 · 27/09/2024 10:26

Wow! I thought I had posted in a forum for adults but it seems I've stepped into the school playground with a bunch of judgemental teenagers that think they know everything about the new starter....

Sounds like you've already made up your minds but, for the record, No, he's not my boyfriend, I'm married with my own children. The mother is genuinely my friend (I know them both but Ive been friends with her for years) and I am genuinely worried that she did this as it's so out of character and then the stopping him seeing the child seems really extreme. There wasn't any shouting or violence (she's told me this) and the house he turned up at was the house they both own but neither of them are living in it since the split.

You all enjoy your narrow minded little group and I'll go and do what I should have done in the first place, ask a genuine grown up at Children's services. If I'm being unreasonable then there's nothing to worry about and if I'm not then she'll get a visit and the help I think she probably needs

Wow! I thought I had posted in a forum for adults but it seems I've stepped into the school playground with a bunch of judgemental teenagers that think they know everything about the new starter....

Most people were only asking questions to build an idea of why the baby was actually alone. You asked a question but gave no relevant information to help people decide.

Sounds like you've already made up your minds

No one has made up their minds hence the questions

You all enjoy your narrow minded little group and I'll go and do what I should have done in the first place, ask a genuine grown up at Children's services.

Your response to genuine posters is uncalled for. I think you should have gone to children’s services because if your judgement on the situation is anything like on here you definitely need a second opinion!

Blusterydaytodaypoohbear · 27/09/2024 13:19

I hope he reported her to the police.

TheShellBeach · 27/09/2024 13:24

She can't stop the baby's father from seeing the baby, OP.
YABU to call him a "baby daddy".

There's no need to get arsey with people. We're just asking for more details.

Such as - why was the baby alone in the car, and for how long?

RightOnTheEdge · 27/09/2024 13:33

Imagine using the term baby daddy and then accusing other people of acting like teenagers 😂😂

LittleGreenDragons · 27/09/2024 14:55

If you can't be bothered to answer any questions at all but would rather insult everybody here instead then I suggest you stay well away from the baby going forward. They need stable influences in their life and hopefully Childrens Services will confirm that. Good luck.

pictoosh · 27/09/2024 15:03

I cba with posters who start with the 'yabu to use the term baby daddy' shite.

People can use whatever slang they want on a chat forum, it is after all a chat forum. No one here gets to make the rules on what term may or may not be used unless they are genuinely offensive.

Don't like the term? So what?

isthesolution · 27/09/2024 15:16

Yeh I think we need context. Was the baby in a locked car on the drive with a baby monitor on because they were asleep and the mum didn't want to disturb them. Or were they alone in the car while mum nipped back to the house to get something? Context is everything.