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Pulling toddler out of nursery as always sick

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Eighteight · 27/09/2024 02:05

My 13 month old started nursery two months ago and has been sick every day since ! Yes I know it’s normal but I’m so sick of it !!!! Everyone in the house is sick constantly too . Problem is , every time she’s sick I have to pay Creche ( where she got sick in the first place ) and take unpaid leave . I’m a single parent and my only other childcare option is her father ( who lives with his father who’s having chemo for aggressive cancer and not long to live…) so as she’s always sick she can’t go there so missed time with her dad and seeing her grandfather . I really don’t know what to do .. should I pull her out of Creche and her dad has her when I work (but then again due to his dads condition sometimes it’s too much her going over 😩) . But if I keep her in Creche she can’t see him at all due to risk of passing infection! Argh so fed up ! I can’t afford to give up work and can’t afford to keep missing Creche and paying either

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Keroppi · 27/09/2024 02:17

So difficult! Does she & you take vitamin gummies, sambucol? Might help
Hand sanitiser in the car and wash hands straight after creche. It's awful though, you are constantly ill for the first 6mo
It would be helpful if her dad could have her as childcare too some days tho. Does he work? He could take her playgroup, softplay etc if it's too much to be at home all day

PronounsBaby · 27/09/2024 03:22

Maybe try building up her immune system through her diet? She is probably just adjusting and it will all settle down in time.she has only been there 2 months in the end.

Surely you will encounter the same issue in school when that comes around. Then you won't be able to keep her off.

What will you do when you need to work?

babyproblems · 27/09/2024 03:29

This was us from about 15 - 20 months. It was pure hell honestly think it was one of the worst times of my life op!!! We were ALL so ill. At one point I passed out on bathroom floor from a vomiting bug when we were all ill at the same time. What I will say is it will pass and you will find after this she will be ill less!!
DS now 2.5 and rarely poorly. I think it’s the sort of first exposure to the mega germ mix at nursery. I do use hand gel a lot, I would use it at pick up and give DS a bath when we got home to try and reduce risk. Don’t know if that really does help reduce bugs but I felt I was trying! Now he goes to a smaller nursery and it’s better aswell with a few less germy hands in the mix. Good luck. Do what you have to to survive Xxx

babyproblems · 27/09/2024 03:30

PronounsBaby · 27/09/2024 03:22

Maybe try building up her immune system through her diet? She is probably just adjusting and it will all settle down in time.she has only been there 2 months in the end.

Surely you will encounter the same issue in school when that comes around. Then you won't be able to keep her off.

What will you do when you need to work?

Disagree - I think op will have it easier at school because her DD will have a better immune system being built from now!!

Dunnoburt · 27/09/2024 03:40

Yanbu OP.......I'm.thankful that I only had to put my daughter in for a few months before she started school....we had permanent colds and sickness bug once a week whilst she was there......she's no sicker than any other kid at school now so IMO the building up immunity talk is crap.....we went to a childminder before i had to put her in nursery and I could count the number of times she was ill from 9 months to 4Yo on my hands......

Bigcat25 · 27/09/2024 03:45

Are there any small home daycares in your area? When I had my son at one (max six kids) he rarely got sick, whereas the bigger one was much more of course.

That said, your ex is just as responsible for the care as you are, whether or not his dad is sick. I think if I was granddad I'd rather have the pleasure of a baby around in my last moments rather than the bleakness of just the hospital. Can't speak for him of course though!

Original poster
Eighteight · 27/09/2024 04:35

PronounsBaby · 27/09/2024 03:22

Maybe try building up her immune system through her diet? She is probably just adjusting and it will all settle down in time.she has only been there 2 months in the end.

Surely you will encounter the same issue in school when that comes around. Then you won't be able to keep her off.

What will you do when you need to work?

Yes I know that but it’s just the situation with grandfather having chemo at the moment 😭

OP posts:
30not13 · 27/09/2024 04:39

Find a Registered Childminder.

Les children's germs in the mix.

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Eighteight · 27/09/2024 04:57

We don’t have any child minders nearby as only live in a small village and the nearest one is way out of the way 😭 I’ve got 3 other children so I remember what it was like with Creche but then I had lots more support , I only have my baby’s father now to help me . I’m hoping when she starts school things may be different with Exs father ( that he’s in a better place and treatment has worked of course ) plus it may be easier to manage illnesses as I find it so hard her being a baby and sick all the time ( I have terrible health anxiety and I find it so stressful not being able to communicate with her what hurts or how to help her , I can’t sleep over fear something happens in the night when she’s sick either . It’s really tough being on my own with a constantly sick baby , I’ve had to take her to hospital 3 times in over a month and juggle the other kids , I just can’t cope very well with a constantly sick baby so if I can prevent it as much as I can then I will . Just feel a bit 😩😩

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marcopront · 27/09/2024 05:08

@babyproblems

Disagree - I think op will have it easier at school because her DD will have a better immune system being built from now!!

Not if she pulled out of nursery.

Copperoliverbear · 27/09/2024 06:03

Maybe look into a childminder as there will be less children there and i always feel the home would be cleaner than a nursery.

Fleur240 · 27/09/2024 06:09

We are also in the thick of this. DD started nursery at the end of August and has been sick ever since. First it was norovirus and the diarrhoea just went on and on for two weeks. She’s also had constant colds since then and was hospitalised on Tuesday with bronchiolitis needing oxygen overnight! She’s also not slept well at all since starting as she’s poorly all the time! I was also at the point of saying enough is enough but I need to work and have no alternative childcare so I think we just need to get through it. I don’t have any advice but hope it gets better for you.

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