Should I work in our bedroom?

[7ony]

Because of the different timezone the company I work for, I always need to work at night starting at about 2 to 3am until noon in the next day. I prefer to work in the bedroom because my desk and office chairs are in the bedroom. But if my wife come to sleep, I will move to downstairs and work in the living room instead.

My wife usually go to bed together with my DD in DD's room every night at 9pm. She would then comes back to sleep in our room in the mid night after she awake and finished some housework. Because DD room don't actually have a bed for her and she needs to sleep on the floor.

My wife dislike my working in bedroom and wants me to work downstairs everyday. She said it's annoying to wait for me to move downstairs every time she comes to sleep.

My wife wants the bedroom emptied waiting for her to come. But I want to maximise my time by occupying it when there is no one using it. AIBU?

You need to figure out how to organise a work space that isn't inconvenient for anyone else, or move the beds round so that your wife has a bed in the same room as your daughter. Can you use a room divider to separate a section of the living room?

Or at least start work downstairs, then move upstairs once your wife and daughter are up for the day.

Your poor wife! Of course you can’t be sat up with the light on, click-click typing away, making calls and shuffling about when she is meant to be sleeping! Work at the kitchen table if you have to work in the middle of the night.

It sounds as though you aren't making good use of the space you have in your home.
I think it's import to separate work from sleep, so wouldn't have a workstation in my bedroom.
When I'm tired I want to go to bed, so wouldn't appreciate having to wait for someone to clear their work before I could settle. She must be exhausted if she has to sleep on a floor and then start cleaning until midnight. Can't you set up a bed chair in your dd's room.

Don’t be ridiculous of course you can’t be working in the room your wife should be sleeping in at 2am/3am?! Go and work somewhere else and let her get some sleep, you’re being really selfish.

Sleep is the priority in a bedroom.

She's not sleeping in your work space.

You're working in her sleep space.

To add, your desk & work chair need to be moved elsewhere. The bedroom is not the place for them to be, you need to rethink the use of space in your home.

Why on earth do you keep your desk and chairs in the room that is needed for your wife to sleep in? That makes no sense at all, and is incredibly selfish. You should start working downstairs, and move upstairs when your wife gets up for the morning.

Sorry you can work at your dining table from 3am until 7ish?

Concisely and perfectly put.

Bloody ridiculous. Work downstairs!

Agree with everyone else.
Also, why is your wife doing housework in the middle of the night?
Whole set up sounds batshit.

Good lord! Your poor wife! Absolutely not. Bedroom is for sleeping; work downstairs and organise your space!

Your wife spends the first half of every night sleeping on the floor and you have to ask of your being unreasonable. Seriously?

Do you get to go to bed when it's your bedtime or do you have to sleep on the floor in another room while you're wife uses the bedroom for something else?

@7ony
You have a job with unsociable hours, that is a you issue not a wife issue.

You need to find somewhere else to set up your desk.

Be thankful I'm not your wife I'd be hovering and cleaning my bedroom windows everyday if I was listening to click, click, ping, ping, click not to mention the light on all night.

Let the woman sleep 😴

Obviously you shouldn't be working in the bedroom in the middle of the night. Obviously your wife should never need to sleep on the floor. Obviously when she does get to sleep in a bed she shouldn't have to wait for you to dick around moving your stuff around.
All of this is really obvious. Find a better place for everyone in the house for you to work.

Could you move your child bed!cot into your bedroom & turn that room into your work space?

Wouldn't you rather be near the cheese?

I'm confused by the whole set up.

Why is your wife sleeping on the floor from 9pm to 3am when the bedroom is free and you're not using it.

What time is she getting up, doing housework and then going back to bed again at... and why?

Why do you prefer the bedroom where you know you will be disturbed, but downstairs you won't... till the morning I presume, but you'll get that now anyway.

Honestly, I'm baffled, but amused .

Another one who is baffled.

You're being incredibly selfish and should work downstairs until they get up in the morning, then move up. She shouldn't be waiting for you to decide to move so she can sleep. You start work at 0200 in the downstairs area, move to the bedroom for privacy at 7, or whenever they get up.

You may get me wrong on this one. I never work in the room when she is sleeping. When she comes to sleep, I grab my laptop and go downstairs.

What the actual fuck? A prince among men, making his wife sleep on the floor. You need to start respecting your wife and move your office if this isn't a sick joke.

It doesn't matter if you move, it's still disrupting to her. She should have a quiet space conducive to sleep (like, you know, a normal bedroom) available to her.

It sounds like all three of you have deeply unhealthy attitudes to sleep. Get your work stuff out of the bedroom. But why is your wife spending so long getting DD to sleep, and apparently doing housework in the middle of the night?!

sleeping should take priority in bedroom’s. I have a small Ikea desk in a corner of my living room. There isn’t space in my bedroom and to be honest i would prefer not to sit in my bedroom all day on the days I work from home. Not least because it would be so tempting to have a power lump during that afternoon slump!

I get your point that she’s not always in the bedroom but hardly fair to say that when shes the one sleeping on the floor every night by the sounds of it. Do you put your DD to bed and do your share of sleeping on the floor so your wife can start the night in her own bed?