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To feel uncomfortable about colleagues discussing their personal relationships at work?

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SoloWanderer · 26/09/2024 13:14

I’ve noticed that some of my colleagues are VERY open about their personal relationships during work hours. While I understand that people want to share their lives, it sometimes feels like these conversations are inappropriate for a professional setting. AIBU to feel that discussing personal relationships at work crosses a line?

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user1492757084 · 26/09/2024 13:18

Then don't participate and try not to listen.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 26/09/2024 13:19

I agree, it's called over-sharing! I have one.
It's ok to say oh I watched x on YouTube last night or what you do a the weekend... but talking about the ups & dows of the relationship ans subsequent break up with a bit of health problems thrown in is sooo wrong!
I've started boring them with the ups & downs of dog ownership. That usually shuts them up!

Moveoverdarlin · 26/09/2024 13:21

Depends massively on what they’re saying. If colleague 1 is saying ‘Christ almighty my other half is doing my head in, yesterday I asked them to get such and such and they forgot, meaning I had to do X, Y Z. Sometimes they drive me mad, their listening skills are zero, I’m sick of taking the brunt.’ That’s just normal everyday chit chat and whinging.

If it’s inappropriate and Colleague 2 is saying ‘Had a good old session with my other half last night and they were loving it’ that’s obviously inappropriate.

Can you not just say ‘Do we REALLY need to know this??’

sparkellie · 26/09/2024 13:23

What is the setting? If you are in a private office that's very different to being on the shopfloor in a supermarket. Essentially though, you don't have to be part of these conversations, so don't be. If someone starts a conversation with you that you aren't interested in being part of just nod and then ask a work related question. Most people don't want to discuss things with people who aren't interested.

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