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Motherhood feels like both an upgrade and a downgrade

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Absolutelyfractious · 26/09/2024 11:42

I love the way my children make me feel and the responsibility of caring for them - being mum in our little family. I feel my life has moved forward having them and am learning so much from our new life. They make me feel valued and important & hopefully I'm doing the same for them.

However...maybe it's because I've gotten particularly mumsy over the years in look and voice, and I'm in my 40s. I feel that often people talk at me, not to me when I'm with my kids. Glaze over when they see a mum and small child in tow - especially when I try to have small talk - like I'm just some silly person wittering away. I'm talking about when we're out and about, in the shops etc. I also feel Drs just talk at me and don't listen when I take my kids in.

Does anyone have the same? When I'm without kids I don't seem to have the same thing, or quite so obvious. As a society do we treat mums and kids as a bit annoying, lesser or invisible?

OP posts:
Happyinarcon · 26/09/2024 12:03

I have never noticed this to be honest. If anything I found the opposite and felt that people took me more seriously when I became mother. I also felt I fitted in more because I had common ground with a lot of people whereas before I had no idea what anyone talked about 🤣

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