To be irritated by people who constantly share their achievements on social media?

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I’m getting increasingly frustrated with people who share every little achievement or success on social media. It feels like they’re showing off rather than sharing genuine moments. AIBU to think that this constant sharing is annoying and unnecessary?

I only follow people I actually like on social media (apart from the professional bit which I keep separate). And I like seeing my friends thrive. I like seeing things they enjoy - a nice restaurant plate or a gorgeous holiday or a fun party or day out or their DOGS - and I certainly love to see when they're doing well in life. I'm all for people posting their achievements online.

I suggest that if seeing someone happy and proud pisses you off, you don't much like them in the first place and you're not their friend. So unfollow them.

If people are on social media and don't like their friends and family posting their achievements why even be on social media? What is the point for you?

Surely that's what it's for? Don't follow people you don't like?

But also this. Not having it is liberating.

I don't use SM so completely oblivious. Give it a try🤣

A friend once said this about her social media "my page is my space, its not for you. If you don't like what I'm sharing, it's up to you to stop looking, not for me to change my content". I think in this case that fits fairly well.

Can’t you just follow them through the shared interest groups then? That would stop you seeing their personal stuff. Though I have a couple of friends I only know via internet interest groups and I’m still pleased for them if they post happy news 🤷‍♀️

Depends what they are sharing for me.

One old school friend treats Facebook like her personal diary and it's way too TMI. Another distant family member likes to brag about every fancy meal out and 5 start hotel etc.. I just roll my eyes and scroll past in those instances

But for people genuinely sharing big achievements - weddings, new houses, promotions, babies etc.. I have no issue with this, these are milestone moments in peoples lives and it's kind of what social media is there for.

I also don't spend hours on it either so it's easy to avoid it if it bothers me.

Oh and if it's peoples travels abroad then I love seeing them, I love travelling myself and this is probably what I'm most guilty of doing myself - probably the only post I make. I share mine for friends and family who are interested (and to confirm we are still alive ha) as well as for memories for ourselves

I don't begrudge people's achievements and always feel pleased for people when they've achieved something. I dislike vanity though and hate all the "look how beautiful I am" selfies some people post and it really isn't jealousy.

Is this a good time to post up about the trophy I was awarded yesterday ?

My closest friends not post anything, just keep a page with grey face and grey all, for the sake if someone wants them there, at least to message. My relatives also. The other ones I can see what they are up to, but we all did similar in life, so I am happy for people. I never had grand ambitions so living a nice little life is ok for me. My cousins are both PHD and they deserve it. I lacked that ambition

Sorry, I was not being clear in my first post. I am not that type of person who befriends the whole class, then the whole uni year, then every colleague from every new job. I am in private contact with the real ones. We did similar life with all my class mates and pretty much living just a life. I got all I ever wanted, so for me their successes are something nice.

Just wanted to tell the poster why do you have to befriend the whole street if their news disturb her

I always think that the external validation they receive must be such a dopamine hit they have to keep it up like a part time job.

The people I know who are prolific SM braggers are actually cool people, they actually do cool stuff but they’re also people with deep seated issues. Their multiple and self-obsessed posts are a big neon sign that has a direct correlation with the depth of neediness for praise and attention. It’s a shame because it just takes the shine off how great they are as ordinary people in the ordinary world, like the rest of us with messy houses and rainy holidays. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Your irritation says more about you than the poster. It’s literally their page to post whatever they want about their life.

If you follow them, you should be happy for them. If their success annoys you, have a think about why that might be? 🤷‍♀️

I'm laughing that you roll your eyes at others' hotel stays but post travels abroad yourself. 😅 I think it's very hard to post anything on social media without somebody thinking it's "braggy"... Whether or not I like seeing people's hotel posts or travel updates really depends on my mental state on the day! But that's my issue not the posters! 🙈 edited to add I never actually get frustrated at the poster, I sometimes get frustrated at myself that I am not doing some things they post.

My ultimate least favourite type of social media post is the "big reveal" of new clothes / handbag / jewellery. I've one person on social media who does this regularly, I blocked her stories from appearing on my feed!

Yeah I realise reading that back it sounds like double standards.

I mean a member of my partners family who is just so OTT, like meals out every day and non stop travelling on other peoples money and just find it a bit over the top that's all. Stepford wives kind of vibes. No issue with people doing it themselves with money they've hard earned themselves!

Depends. If it’s achieving something academic or sporting.. or weight loss etc, that’s taken hard work… fair enough.
I am very bitter and jealous though and don’t like to see folk having fun. I don’t want to see your expensive holiday when im just about to drive to work in the rain… no thankyou…

Also don’t want to see if you have better stuff than me (cars, posh houses etc)

I fully admit that social media is NOT for me but sadly…too addicted

I call FB Bragbook. I use it for sharing funny and interesting things, but it seems most people use it to show off their holidays, house, car, kids achievements…

It depends. I genuinely like to see other people's achievements. I'm happy for my friends when they do something they are proud of. It often motivates me to do better too!

One thing I can't stand is people who rub achievements in your face in a braggy sort of way, or when they use their accomplishments to put others down. I only have one friend who does this (every single day) - a selfie with a caption bragging about something she's done where even the smallest thing has to be presented as an achievement. I often have periods where I will I follow her just for some respite. I feel sorry for her because it's so obvious that it is coming from a place of insecurity. Her posts remind me to stay humble and to think before I post.

Nothing wrong at all with sharing achievements but don't be a dick about it!

Well I don't post about kids and my holidays but I'm pretty dammed sure I'm posting about the half marathon I ran in 1hour 48minutes couldn't give a stuff if it's bragging 🙃

Why do you think those things are bragging? I post mine and many of my friends have more expensive holidays etc. I’m not bragging. I’m sharing what I’m up to. My friends seem to like it, as I like theirs. So odd to think anyone telling you any good thing that has happened to them is bragging.

I agree it is overkill.

What is?

The other day I sent my finished book to the editor. I was thrilled and, jumping about, told my dh. He said ‘I guess we’re paying her again so’. Said it online and people cheered me on. I needed it.