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To think friend was cheeky?

10 replies

Tnc · 25/09/2024 13:17

I was recently invited to a christening about 45 mins away. A friend of mine, who was also invited, lives 2 or 3 hours away by train but claimed that the trains weren't running frequently enough for her to be able to get to the little village where the church was in time and so asked if I could give her and her husband a lift from a train station 20 mins away from us.

This meant an extra 45 minutes of driving for me (it was in the opposite direction and we had to find parking) and hoovering the car as my dogs shed and friend's husband is very allergic. Anyway I agreed.

My husband and I turn up expecting to see friend and her husband coming out of the train station but instead see them getting out of a car driven by friend's mum, who lives very nearby. They had obviously travelled down the night before and stayed with her - so could in fact have got the train to the church village.

Anyway, we set off, attend the christening and party. I mention to my husband that we should be getting back soon for our dogs and friend says, in a baby voice, "Can you give us a lift back too?"

I suggest we drop them at the train station 2 mins from our house, but that apparently means they won't get the return train they're booked onto.

I agree (not particularly enthusiastically) and tell her we'd better go now then, at which point she and her husband disappear for ten minutes and are eventually found socialising in another room.

AIBU to think this was cheeky, especially when her own mum was apparently free all day and could have dropped them at our house to save us going miles out of our way?

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Pandasnacks · 25/09/2024 13:19

It was cheeky and you should have said no to the return lift home, more fool you for not doing.

toomuchfaff · 25/09/2024 16:14

Yes they were CF

Cherrysoup · 25/09/2024 16:21

Don’t think I’d have hoovered the car. I’d have told her it wasn’t going to work given how allergic her Dh is. She was very cheeky.

I only hoovered my DH’s car because he broke his elbow and was selling it. It was totally disgusting. Apparently the buyer told him he kept it incredibly clean! 🤣

AffIt · 25/09/2024 16:28

Yes, it was pure CFery, but why ask strangers on the internet?

Why did you not say at the time 'that was good of your mum to give you a lift to the station, Lydia, is she picking you up?'.

I am endlessly fucking baffled by the inability of adults to just have ACTUAL conversations with other adults.

Allfur · 25/09/2024 16:29

Have they not heard of taxis?

Mugaloaf · 29/09/2024 07:47

How were they planning to get back before they asked you for a lift?

Royalshyness · 29/09/2024 07:50

Lesson learned - I wouldn’t bother with her again, baby voice my arse- I would have gone mad

Tanefan · 29/09/2024 08:18

I would have just gone. I wouldn't have gone looking for them when they disappeared.

Tae1 · 29/09/2024 08:32

Yes they were very cheekyband definitely treated you as a mug.
Learn from it and never say yes again, ever.

RainSotrm · 29/09/2024 08:39

Yes, friend was cheeky - of course! There are plenty of people around like this.

I would spend some time thinking about how you will handle a similar situation in the future differently.

'No, that's completely in the opposite direction for us and we need to go straight home now.'

Honestly, it gets easier with practice.

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