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The Irony.. PM's donation was for ‘son to study for GCSEs’

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JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 08:42

PM suggests £20,000 donation was for ‘son to study for GCSEs’ | The Independent

Sorry if there are other threads, but I did search and nothing came up.

“My boy, 16, was in the middle of his GCSEs. I made him a promise, a promise that he would be able to get to his school, do his exams, without being disturbed,” he told BBC Radio 4’s Today programme.

“But if you’re a 16-year-old trying to do your GCSEs and it’s your one chance in life – I promised him we would move somewhere, get out of the house and go somewhere where he could be peacefully studying.

So its OK for the PM to be worried about his child's "one chance" GCSE year being disturbed ...but he's not so worried about other people's children feeling stressed during their GCSEs by introducing the private school VAT during an academic school year.

I don't have a child in private school doing their GCSEs. And I know that there are lots of people who support the VAT and those who don't.

But I think there is a midline where lots of people on both sides of the fence agree making this change during an academic year is not fair on the kids in key exam years...and I am one of them because not all parents have a Lord Alli to step in to ensure their child's "one chance" GCSE year is not being disturbed.

For Voting:

Unreasonable - I am with Keir and I am not really bothered with other people's children's "one chance" school year being interrupted.

Not Unreasonable - I agree Labour should not interrupt the academic school year and introduce the VAT in September 2025.

PM suggests £20,000 donation was for ‘son to study for GCSEs’

The Prime Minister signalled he could continue to accept hospitality gifts from donors.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/keir-starmer-prime-minister-gcses-mps-government-b2618505.html

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JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 14:17

Well it sounds like you might then be mixing with the very rich and wealthy - and its likely you are one of those parents whose children are not going to be effected because you can easily pay and are happy to.

If you really want to know my political leaning - I'm a child of an immigrant mother, we were so poor growing up we didn't have enough food to eat...so I have voted Labour for most of my voting adult life (30 plus years) because I believe that everyone should have a decent standard of living: I am happy to pay more taxes for better schools, for the NHS, for teachers, families with disabled children, the elderly and anyone else who struggles to achieve a decent standard of living.

But I also have a strong moral compass for what is right and fair - and I think the government should charge all of us more tax for improved education...targeting private school parents, many of whom have used the private school system to help their children with SEN needs, just feels wrong to me.

Did I vote for Keir recently? No, I think Keir's a plonker. But I also think Boris Johnson is a plonker too if that helps.

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JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 14:23

89redballoons · 25/09/2024 14:13

Give over.

If I had put my child into private school in year 7 or year 9 (or whenever), I'd have budgeted and planned for how I was going to pay their school fees up until the end of year 13. Let's say that child is in year 11 now and VAT is imposed on school fees from January, and the school passed the VAT cost on to all parents immediately.

If that VAT made it unaffordable for me to send my child to the same school up until the end of year 13, I'd just pay the VAT on the year 11 fees from the money I had earmarked for year 12 and year 13 fees. If I was paying school fees out of income rather than capital then worst comes to worst, I'd put the VAT element of the year 11 fees on an interest free credit card or take out a low interest loan for it and pay it off while my child was in year 12. That would still be much less than the school fees I'd have been planning to pay up until this year. I would thereby avoid disruption to my child's GCSE year.

The majority of private school families with children in exam years will be able to afford to do this or something similar. Some private schools have hardship funds for children whose families suddenly can't afford their fees; that might be helpful in some cases within that minority. I'd hope the parents in such cases would have these conversations between themselves and with the school and work out a plan before worrying their children in GCSE year with "family conversations" about money.

Yes, some children will have to move schools after year 11 and they might be anxious about that, but it's not hugely unusual. 20 years ago my husband was on an assisted place at a private school up until the end of year 11, when he had to move to a state sixth form college. He did fine. Several of his friends moved with him and he made new friends too.

You have a lot of money if you can do what you are saying you would do - not everyone is as liquid / has a great credit rating as you clearly do!

"If that VAT made it unaffordable for me to send my child to the same school up until the end of year 13, I'd just pay the VAT on the year 11 fees from the money I had earmarked for year 12 and year 13 fees. If I was paying school fees out of income rather than capital then worst comes to worst, I'd put the VAT element of the year 11 fees on an interest free credit card or take out a low interest loan for it and pay it off while my child was in year 12. That would still be much less than the school fees I'd have been planning to pay up until this year. I would thereby avoid disruption to my child's GCSE year."

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hoglets · 25/09/2024 14:27

he is a complete self entitled and tone deaf clown. How we ended up with him. My DC cannot attend school due to crippling anxiety and depression and an (yet undiagnosed) ASD as there is no provision. Is one rule for them, and another for the rest of us.

DonnaBanana · 25/09/2024 14:28

Isn't it funny they can get paid all this stuff because of their job but then pay no tax on it? Pay the taxes on it Keir and no one will care less

89redballoons · 25/09/2024 14:33

JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 14:23

You have a lot of money if you can do what you are saying you would do - not everyone is as liquid / has a great credit rating as you clearly do!

"If that VAT made it unaffordable for me to send my child to the same school up until the end of year 13, I'd just pay the VAT on the year 11 fees from the money I had earmarked for year 12 and year 13 fees. If I was paying school fees out of income rather than capital then worst comes to worst, I'd put the VAT element of the year 11 fees on an interest free credit card or take out a low interest loan for it and pay it off while my child was in year 12. That would still be much less than the school fees I'd have been planning to pay up until this year. I would thereby avoid disruption to my child's GCSE year."

I don't at all, my kids are at local state primary school/preschool and i couldn't afford the fees for the school I went to myself now. But most private school parents with children in Y11 will by definition have a lot of money and will have budgeted somehow for school fees up until the end of Y13. One or both of these options will likely be available to them, if they find themselves unable to pay 6th form fees plus VAT.

This is all getting very theoretical but the point is that the original post is a straw man. Kier Starner isn't trying to disrupt a load of children's GCSE years while protecting his own son's GCSE study period, because putting VAT on private school fees won't mean that most children currently in Y11 at private schools will have to move schools because of the VAT. * *

JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 14:37

89redballoons · 25/09/2024 14:33

I don't at all, my kids are at local state primary school/preschool and i couldn't afford the fees for the school I went to myself now. But most private school parents with children in Y11 will by definition have a lot of money and will have budgeted somehow for school fees up until the end of Y13. One or both of these options will likely be available to them, if they find themselves unable to pay 6th form fees plus VAT.

This is all getting very theoretical but the point is that the original post is a straw man. Kier Starner isn't trying to disrupt a load of children's GCSE years while protecting his own son's GCSE study period, because putting VAT on private school fees won't mean that most children currently in Y11 at private schools will have to move schools because of the VAT. * *

I think maybe you might now get the point of some private school parents with SEN kids - your notion that all private school parents have so much money they have access to funds meant for future years is just very very wrong.

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89redballoons · 25/09/2024 14:39

JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 14:37

I think maybe you might now get the point of some private school parents with SEN kids - your notion that all private school parents have so much money they have access to funds meant for future years is just very very wrong.

I said most, not all (twice).

safarileader · 25/09/2024 14:40

i’m guessing Reform

JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 14:42

89redballoons · 25/09/2024 14:39

I said most, not all (twice).

Still not most! How can you make a sweeping comment about thousands of parent's disposal income - without any stats to back it up - and maintain your perception is right? Its just not logical.

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Bollihobs · 25/09/2024 14:45

Imperfectionist · 25/09/2024 09:10

This is a false equivalence.

And it is not easy to be the teenage son of the Prime Minister, studying for your GCSEs but also trying to make sense of life when you have hostile journalists and photographers outside your front door, day and night.

Perhaps if his father and the rest of the Cabinet hadn't accepted £800,000 in freebies and gifts THIS YEAR, the journos wouldn't be there or be hostile in the first place.

89redballoons · 25/09/2024 14:46

JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 14:42

Still not most! How can you make a sweeping comment about thousands of parent's disposal income - without any stats to back it up - and maintain your perception is right? Its just not logical.

It is completely ogical to assume that a majority of private school parents have a decent amount of disposable income - because they can afford to send their children to private school. By definition that is something that is normally only an option for people with a really decent amount of disposable income, or else help from family, or savings.

Do you have any statistics on hand to show that most private school parents are living month to month with no plan in place for funding the next year's fees?

BIossomtoes · 25/09/2024 14:50

Bollihobs · 25/09/2024 14:45

Perhaps if his father and the rest of the Cabinet hadn't accepted £800,000 in freebies and gifts THIS YEAR, the journos wouldn't be there or be hostile in the first place.

They didn’t. That figure is over five years. 🤷‍♀️

Bollihobs · 25/09/2024 14:53

iNoticed · 25/09/2024 10:38

I think the difference between Keir and previous Conservative MPs is that Keir believes he’s in the right.

Plenty of people don’t have undisturbed places for their 16 year olds to revise, plenty will be disturbed by VAT, plenty have their job options limited by their kids’ education. But Keir’s “boy” is better than them. It would’ve been fine for Keir to PAY for his son to go an AirBnB to study, it didn’t need to be a gift.

What should be happening is a reflection that all this gift giving is wrong to any MP and he should hold his hands up and change the rules. He cannot possibly be an independent politician while he is getting this level of personal funding from donors. At my work, I have to refuse any gift of over £50 (colleagues have had to throw unsolicited hampers straight in the bin if the cost more than this) for fear of bribery or impaired independence. And I don’t have any sort of political role.

If Lord Alli asked Keir to act against his morals or manifesto, could Keir hand on heart say he’d be true to the cause knowing it would mean he could, say, never go to watch Arsenal again or his son’s A Levels might be impacted by journalists, or his wife’s designer wardrobe would stop? I honestly don’t think he could make an unbiased choice in that scenario. So the gifts should stop, like they’re stopped for the rest of the UK.

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I think that's exactly right.

People do, or did, think that Labour wouldn't be like this, that they'd be better than that. But Free Gear Keir, his wife and the rest of his cohorts have sadly proved that theory wrong in record time.

To be honest I think it's shocked most people no matter how much we say "oh they're all same" . 😕

Leniriefenstahl · 25/09/2024 14:54

@Alltheprettyseahorses Really ? You’ve got a pretty low bar of tolerance for labour and a mountainous one for the tories. Did you give a toss about Johnson back in the day ? And reading previous posts you’re not exactly neutral are you ?
How will you cope with ‘honest’ Jenrick when he’s elected opposition leader ?

Leniriefenstahl · 25/09/2024 15:01

Never known such a disgruntled shower of opposition party activists posters ? Their ‘team’ had 14 years to sort stuff out. They didn’t. Actually wondering whether they are mainly Faragists rather than Tories. What with all the nicknames for Starmer dragged over from SM.
Funnily enough this is all reminiscent of Trump’s stubborn denial that Bidden won the election, there’s a repeated theme on certain websites that Starmer didn’t win, the Tories lost, he’s not our rightful PM. Really makes you wonder who really wants to drag the UK into chaos. Surely if you’re a loyal Brit you want the best for your country.

RobinEllacotStrike · 25/09/2024 15:01

someone "offers" him temporary accommodation for £20,000??

And this man is running the UK? Gawd help us.

Lucked · 25/09/2024 15:15

They shouldn’t be allowed gifts.

GMC tells doctors to decline gifts over £10 but politicians can accept a value of £20000. It is unethical, no one believes you can’t buy influence.

derxa · 25/09/2024 15:15

You might as well be hanged for a sheep as for a lamb

JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 15:17

89redballoons · 25/09/2024 14:46

It is completely ogical to assume that a majority of private school parents have a decent amount of disposable income - because they can afford to send their children to private school. By definition that is something that is normally only an option for people with a really decent amount of disposable income, or else help from family, or savings.

Do you have any statistics on hand to show that most private school parents are living month to month with no plan in place for funding the next year's fees?

But I didn't use the word 'most' I used the word 'some' and I also didn't say parents were living hand to mouth - what I did say is some private school parents don't have these high levels of income where they have stashed money away for future years fees. They just don't. I know plenty like this and so the word 'some' fits my understanding. The fees for standard not-too-flash but the small class sizes will suit your SEN child private schools in our area are £23k a year - people are not setting aside in advance this level of money for future years. They are just not - they are working and paying the fees in the same year they are due.

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 25/09/2024 15:21

This is a false equivalence to the point of absurdity

Leniriefenstahl · 25/09/2024 15:23

JustSpeechless · 25/09/2024 15:17

But I didn't use the word 'most' I used the word 'some' and I also didn't say parents were living hand to mouth - what I did say is some private school parents don't have these high levels of income where they have stashed money away for future years fees. They just don't. I know plenty like this and so the word 'some' fits my understanding. The fees for standard not-too-flash but the small class sizes will suit your SEN child private schools in our area are £23k a year - people are not setting aside in advance this level of money for future years. They are just not - they are working and paying the fees in the same year they are due.

Must mix in different circles to me then. I know nobody who can ever afford private education. Could never accumulate £23k in one year. Hell, it’s not much less than my entire annual wage. You’re normalising something beyond the means of most.

luckylavender · 25/09/2024 15:25

cheezncrackers · 25/09/2024 09:14

I just heard this on the radio while I was doing the school run. Ugh! He makes me sick. It's one rule him and his kids and one rule for everyone else. He can accept donations, as long as it's to ensure his kids are happy, apparently. He used taking his son to watch the football as justification for accepting free tickets to that too. He's a fucking hypocrite! All those years he stood on the other side of the dispatch box carping at the Tories and making fun of BJ and his fancy wallpaper and here he is, doing exactly the same things. Piggies with their snouts in the trough, all of them. And they always have some bullshit reason why it's okay for them, but not for everyone else.

That's what you get when you half listen to a story. Starmer is a massive Arsenal fan & has had a season ticket for a very long time as has his son. He still buys these season tickets but Arsenal suggested they give him a box so the security costs to the tax payer are less. So he still pays & he costs the tax payer less.

luckylavender · 25/09/2024 15:28

dottiehens · 25/09/2024 10:01

I would said he is worse than Boris. Purely because he is a double standards politician who got in by selling us on his integrity. Now we see how he looks so much better groomed than Boris with so much stuff given for free even his glasses. He makes me sick!

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You think Johnson bought his own clothes? Johnson didn't even buy his own food.

luckylavender · 25/09/2024 15:30

@TeenagersAngst - how many times did Sunak go to football? Answer, not many. Starmer goes very often.