To be annoyed at DH

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Hi
Name changed as regular poster and don't want this to be outing.
I'm annoyed at DH but don't want to start an argument as I don't know if I am just being tired and unreasonable. I go out one night a week to do a hobby (a Tuesday).
DH takes the children to swimming lessons and does their dinner (just something quick like a pizza/chicken nuggets).
I have come home at 10 and nothing at all has been done. Dishes on the side, no uniform ironed for tomorrow, no lunches made. It's taken me 45 minutes to do it all and I have just sat down now.
I feel exhausted and fed up. We both work the same hours and he does help out but I do all of the life admin- so whilst he might take DC to their after school activities I organise it all, wash the kits, buy in the various costumes, etc etc.
I don't want to argue so will likely just go to bed but just feel pissed off.

I'd be pissed off aswell
Op

I wouldn't be able to not say anything.

Ask him how many times he has to come home from a hobby to find you've not done ironing lunches dishes etc?

Call him out on it.

There's the odd time dh has been thoughtless in similar situation and I've literally stood and asked him why he thinks it's ok to leave it all to me and when was the last time I left it to him? And then just look at him and watch him squirm.

I don't think you are unreasonable.

I am single, so I might not be the person to give advice.

Can you sit down and talk to your husband?
You love him, he loves you, you are best friends and you are a team.
Tell him that you both need to take responsibility for the life admin things.
Tell him that if you are not at home and he is cooking dinner, then he is the one doing the dishes, too. And everything else. Tuesday nights are all on him.

How old are the kids? If you are with the kids all evening and he's out do you have all that done?

@dothehokeycokey thank you. He has gone to bed but I am going to talk to him about it tomorrow. I am sat here absolutely seething so hopefully I would have calmed down by then!

@Highhland children are 9 and 13 (oldest has sen, is well behaved but can't help out due to disabilities). I make sure everything is done when he goes out, house is all clean and prepped for the next day and kids are all sorted and in bed.

Yeah he's lazy as fuck with those ages.

Is this out of character OP?

Contribute please husband. Not a lot to ask

What's he been like every other Tuesday? If this is unusual for him I'd be asking if everything was 'ok' before asking him why he thinks doing Jack shit last night was acceptable.

Just another shit husband offloading the load onto the mum.

He's a total twat.
Have a conversation iterating you are not the house manager and it's not your job to carry all the emotional labour.
If it doesn't stop

Stop doing it for him. Just stop. Don't do anything for him atall.
No washing, cooking, ironing favours or sex.

Bloody man child - furious on your behalf