Sexually attracted to friend

[Iamnormal]

Anytime I get close to a person and like them personality wise I start to think of them sexually even women when I’m straight is this some sort of trauma? I think I might equate love to sex with no room for platonic/friendship love how do I stop?

Are you neuro diverse in any way? That's a genuine question, as one of the traits of Adhd, for example is over focusing on people and falling in love hard and fast. Do you identify with this?

Also, why do you think you identify as straight when you are also attracted to women?

Sounds like some therapy might help you to work this out OP

It sounds like you have unmet needs, emotionally or sexually, or both? What is your relationship like with the people you should be close to, and do you have a partner?
I had a difficult relationship with my parents, and I've been in difficult relationships with partners at times. Sometimes, like you, I have thought I was sexually attracted to people who were just friends. It was just like a crush. I wasn't attracted to them sexually when I really thought about it, I was just craving intimacy, love, deep connection, and I wasn't getting it anywhere so I transferred the need.

Well, maybe you’re bi?