Would you be upset by this?

[Mildon]

I do the majority of the cooking despite the fact we both work FT. Dp says he’s rubbish at cooking and if just falls to me (interestingly the same as his family dynamic growing up).

If he doesn’t let me know what time hell be home, I’ll make dinner and have it on the table for him to heat up. If I don’t message him when I’m running late from work, he’ll cook himself something and eat it and then offer to cook me something when k arrive. I got really upset when he did this - how hard is it to cook my dinner at the same time and then have it waiting for me?

would anyone else feel the same?

I couldn’t even get worked up by this, it doesn’t sound like there are any kids involved so if you’re home late just cook for yourself. It DH is going to be home late then I would rather make something quick and easy for myself.

It depends what he's cooking. If he's just cooked himself an omelette or beans on toast then it would make sense for him to make it for you so it's freshly cooked when you get in. If he's making something that can be easily reheated and still taste good then he should make you a portion too.

To be honest I think I would prefer the way he does it. Looked fresh is always going to taste better than reheated.

I think it depends. When you are late home and he offers to cook you something, do you take up the offer? Is he offering but hoping you will decline or is he genuine in his offer?

If he's happy to cook you a separate fresh meal from scratch then potentially that's nicer than a reheated meal he chose for himself.
So I wouldn't be bothered.

If you like the things he makes, then do just say 'if you're making X tonight, do me a portion at the same time'. Then if he chooses not to at least you've tried!

As long as his food is nice then he should stop pretending he can't cook too!