To report this mum to the school

[Owl97]

I see her everyday and she always looks drunk/high and smells of alcohol. I overheard her telling her mate at drop off the other day that she was ‘pissed whilst I packed his lunch box’. She always has her baby in a baby carrier and is swearing every time I see her. Shouting ‘fuck off’ and today I heard the C word multiple times and every time I see her on the school grounds she’s swearing in front of other children and parents. Would you report to school? It’s every single pick up and her language is awful and she’s also very loud. She uses the word ‘fucking’ in every sentence she says

My dd had a friend whose mum was exactly like this in primary school. There's actually not a lot that seems to be able to be done. The school banned her from the premises after a couple of incidents and the teacher or assistant or headmaster used to walk the children out of the gates to meet her. No help at all for the kids and so embarrassing for them. Mum gave no shits.

She once asked my nanny if she'd mind picking her kids up for her, and walking them out of the gate as the school wouldn't let them leave without an adult (they were 5&9). She said they could then just get the bus home on their own once they were out!!!! My nanny was a mandated reporter so reported this and yet again nothing was done.

Dd followed her daughter on social media for years after they left primary. Lots of videos of her smoking weed with the "best mum in the world" and she's currently awaiting trial.

It's so bloody frustrating. She was a clever, funny, kind, cheerful girl and I believe she was badly let down by the authorities who kept her with her mum.

Surely just ring the police at the time? Drunk in charge of a minor I presume.

Tell SS and the school. I’m surprised by reports of schools doing nothing in similar situations - my DC’s school refused to let two children leave when their mum turned up to collect them very obviously inebriated.

Absolutely report to Children's Services. If she is under the influence and in charge of a child and young baby this will be taken seriously.

Yes definitely, I'd report to school and SS

I think LADO is who you contact if you have concerns about someone who works with children. Not actual parents. Usually bog standard social care. I could be wrong but that's how I have understood some training I did.

The school are being cowardly in this matter, turning a blind eye. Someone needs to tell social services.

I’m actually quite concerned for the mum and the children now. I was driving home from work around 2pm and saw her sat at the bus stop, maybe 10 minute walk from the school, with what looked to be a can or two of alcohol next to her so I presume she does drink during the day before doing the pick up

Yes I think that’s right, just those who work with children and I think it’s only the SLT who can contact LADO

Alco mum at my children's primary clearly very drunk turning up stinking at 9am , crashing car etc. school reported to SS under safeguarding but children still with mum. Sadly they be better off not. So if you report as well it would help the children.

Please report, the school might be aware of her but not be aware of her recent comments or their specifics. The usual advice about the missing piece of the safeguarding jigsaw puzzle.

We have many of these mum's around my childs school too! It's disgusting you'll be surprised how common it actually is, there's always texts from the school office regarding parents complaining about other parents swearing in the playground, smoking outside the gates, or using vulgar language in the school grounds! Myself and other parents, have all smelt booze and weed on parents too!