Men you know treat you differently after divorce?

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I've just started experiencing this. It's blown my mind but I don't know why. I think I should have expected it.

I was talking to the father of a former classmate if my chimd's. We'd had some chats years ago when we were both at the park while the kids played. Nothing that interesting, just small talk.

Bumped into him recently in a shop. Normal small talk. He mentioned my husband. I told him he's my ex. This guy switched his behaviour SO fast. He kind of leapt over beside me, started putting his hand on my shoulder. Telling me I looked good (I didn't, objectively I looked dishevelled cos I'd nipped out for a few things in the evening), wanting me to come to some event, finding my number from old Whatsapps for kids' parties years ago and messaging me. He's in a long term (10+ years) relationship with the mother of his second child.

I was not leading him on, not even subconsciously as I got out of an abusive relationship and don't ever want a man in my life again! It was so fast too, there wasn't even time for me to lead him on!

Honestly, I've never seen the change SO blatant. I've thought I've seen it just not like that.

In general, have you noticed men treating you differently when they find out you're divorced?

I'm not divorced as never been married but have had to repeatedly lie about being in a relationship when I'm single to stop this kind of behaviour and attention

Yes, there's an assumption you're suddenly desperate for crumbs.

Lost an old friend over this, tho I guess he wasn't a friend really, just waiting for an option.

Yes, I recently separated from my husband and the vultures started circling almost immediately.

Like you I've just left an abusive relationship and it almost feels like they're drawn to the vulnerability.

This happened to me too, but I wasn't married. I socialised with a mixed group and suddenly most of the men changed.

I think that we are sexual beings for them and either game (no man) or not game (a man).

I put it down to biology really.

Yes, I know this, and also the disrespect! I've been wearing cocktail rings on my left hand for decades so as to protect myself from comments. 'Why aren't you married?' or the 'So, you have neither husband nor children?' or as a colleague of mine had; 'Your vagina hasn't really lived'.

Absolutely.

The number of married men I knew who solicitously offered to 'pop round' in an evening in case I needed anything or was 'lonely' was embarassing. The fact that they genuinely thought I'd be grateful for a shag from one of my friends' husbands was pathetic.

Every woman I know says this.

Wtaf people are so weird I have 2 children trust me that's not the kind of living you want your vagina to have

This didn’t happen to me. Not sure if I should be offended or glad I don’t know creeps.

Be glad nobody wants to be constantly hit on by creepy guys especially when your fresh out a relationship. I'm in a relationship now but when iv been single I seriously needed a sign round my neck saying I'm not lonely, desperate or Incapable I don't need saving or protecting so take a hint

Well, I met these creeps in my day to day life. They weren't friends.

I’ve never had this happen to me. Maybe I’m incredibly ugly? Or have a massive RBF? Or maybe I’m fatter than the mirror and scales tell me?

After my ex DH had an affair I had male friends creep out the woodwork telling me I could do better and I should sleep with them. What made them think that would be them? I find the entitlement and the predatory behaviour so uncomfortable.

Husbands want to have a quick shage with a woman obviously now desperate!
Wives are scared you will say yes.

Social life gets decimated overnight because you become unwanted by women - except by your very closest friends. That more general couply socialising goes out the window because obviously you are a man crazed harridan set on stealing their husband. It's very strange but then its true men are up for a quick covert fumble with a divorcee.