To tell my sister to be careful

[ForOliveShaker]

My sister had an op on her leg. She’s been having physio lately. She and the physio do get on. They have a laugh. Well all according to her account of things. She pays privately and sees him frequently.

She has told me on a couple of occasions they have things in common, I’ve told her to just. Be careful. Considering he’s in a professional capacity he’s working and may not see it this way.

She insists she still needs to test the water. But I said there’s no point I don’t know what that would achieve. I’ve told her to push it as far back into the recesses of her mind. But she won’t.

She’s now thinking of asking him for coffee. AIBU by saying. Just be careful?

To add to this. She’s a lovely woman. Can probably choose whoever she wants but is clearly drawn to this man. I’ve heard of crazier stories but I don’t know. I’m not sure on this.

Is he single? Is she single? Is she prepared to switch to a different physio?

Both single. But she CANNOT handle rejection. She’s only seen him about 5 times😂I think he’s very handsome and she is a beautiful soul. But he can’t flirt in his capacity surely. Or maybe I’m naive

Your sister can either wait until she is not his patient or ask him for a date but the physio would need to transfer care to a colleague as he won't be able to have a relationship with a patient. I know a few physios who went on to date patients so not unheard of!

its a private practice. it’s basically his own business so I don’t think it would be transferred to anyone. She just needs to find someone new.

she was in my room today talking about how he stopped her at the end to talk about cooking. She loves to cook. He offered her a utensil he didn’t use😂😂I just don’t want to see her hurting. She’s been through some stuff before.

He’s into a lot of spiritual stuff like her aswell. But weirdly they don’t seem to talk of this. I said to her I thought it would be her selling point.

Any time he uploads on instagram she’s pouncing on it😂

I maybe cynical but is he being flirtatious to keep the appointments coming 💲💲💲

@ForOliveShaker You say she’s a beautiful soul and can probably get anyone she likes- are you pointing at she’s very attractive or not so much? If she’s very attractive then yes he’s probably in to her too. Men are simple creatures.

she needs to wait until the course of treatment is over - imagine the awks if he said no, and as a professional he really should say no, even if it is a not yet

He's her physio not her school teacher or boss. Presumably they are both consenting adults.

She could just as easily have fancied her hairdresser or personal trainer. It's not anything crazy.

There are plenty of professionals of both sexes that are charming and try and have a light hearted environment- it keeps the repeat business walking through the door.

If he's ethically minded he won't be keen on dating patients. It may even breach his professional standards.
Firstly, he's going to be kind, friendly, encouraging etc. that's his job. So to assume he's flirting with her I'd say it's unlikely. Plus he may not be single.
I guess she could ask him if he is. But even that seems awkward. But then at least he can say 'no' regardless of whether it's true or not as a get out. Without it getting too weird? It could already be seen as weird tbh.
I wouldn't act on a crush on a medical professional who was treating me. It puts both of you in an embarrassing position ultimately.
And he might quit her as a client.

Be careful of what, exactly?

Let's say ahe asks him out. He says no.

What are you afraid of happening then? One adult asks another out for coffee but is politely declined. It's not the end of the world.

He may not want her as a patient - ok, that isn't so bad. This is private physio - there are lots of them around and she can find an alternative physio without any issue.

Or is that you fear that rejection means that she will then do something silly/be very upset?

Why don't you mind your own business and keep your warning to yourself? Your sister is an adult and this man is probably not a serial killer. If she gets her feelings hurt, that's on her to manage, which she will.

She needs to wait until her treatment is finished to ask him for coffee. He should not date patients

Just tell her to look for a new physio before asking him for a coffee. Once she's overstepped that boundary regardless of the outcome, there's no going back.

He's a medical professional who needs to be licensed to practice. Having a romantic relationship with a patient would be professional misconduct and he'd risk being struck off and losing his livelihood.

I would tell her to finish her physio and enjoy the sessions and if she still feels a special spark once their professional relationship has finished she could ask whether he fancied a meet up. He might just be super chatty with all his clients or he might feel a special spark with her. The time to explore it, is once her physio has finished.

Advise her to wait till she finishes the physio.