To ask them to change my title back

[Msfrustrated]

I've always been a Ms for decades - as long as I've been able to apply for my account bank accounts etc every form, provider, ID document has been registered as Ms.

I've just moved for the first time in donkeys years and everyone I've contacted solely to update my address has sent through confirmation of the change and inexplicably by title has been changed to either Miss or Mrs with almost everyone.

I'm now annoyed because I was able to update my address with most everyone online but it seems to change the title with some of them I have to either call or visit in branch which is a faff because I never bloody asked for it to change in the first place.

My partner says IABU and should just leave it but the staunch feminist in me is bothered receiving post and bills incorrectly calling me either a Miss or a Mrs especially as it's just not what I'm used to seeing by my name. I've always been Ms last name . She says as long as it didn't say Mr, she doesn't never corrects titles on things or notices if they've called her Ms or Mrs.

IABU - it's a title who cares
IANBU - Ms should be sued for those who register as a Ms

I have the same issue, I don't think people actually understand what Ms means! I do find it annoying but even in this day and age Ms sometimes doesn't even figure in the drop down choices 😕

I’ve been Ms since I was about sixteen. When I got married I did change my surname but didn’t become Mrs. Bloody HSBC still changed me to Mrs and I can’t be arsed fixing it. Still Ms everywhere else though, that’s shit that that’s happened to you!

I refuse to announce my marital status to everyone when men don’t!

I think you're right which is part of why I asked. I only contacted one provider so far who have changed me to a Mrs and got "sorry so it needs correcting to Miss?" And having to go back and forth before spelling out that it's Ms

I'd rather there just not be any title choices if they aren't going to include them all.

I would find this annoying. I've always called myself 'Mrs', even after I divorced,but the main reason for that was because,as the previous poster said,so often the drop-down choices don't mention 'Ms'. As an aside,for many years, British Gas insisted on addressing me as 'Mr' in every letter they sent me! This was despite me having an obviously female first name! It took me 3 years of constantly telling them that it was 'Mrs' before they changed it.

Same as me. Not married but in a civil partnership and had no intention of changing to a Mrs to announce my change in relationship status!

I'm sorry about your bank. They seem to be the worst to change as you have to go in person to a branch (and who has a branch anymore?)

Ms should be the default

Of course you should ask people to correct your title if it bothers you. It is extremely rude to address someone by the wrong title if they have been advised of your preferences - and the organisations you've referred to clearly did know your preferences previously. I feel very strongly that I want to be known as Mrs and it makes me very angry when someone calls me Miss or Ms once I've told them how I want to be addressed.

How annoying! I'm sorry that happened. Happy to hear I'm not the only one who thinks it's worth the effort of correcting these companies though!

Thank you. Completely agree - if I knew or had seen someone put down Mrs I wouldn't dream of calling them Miss or Ms.

I'm always Ms and would be furious about this and make sure it was all changed. I'm very clear on the phone when people take my details, "It's Ms, M S."

My mortgage provider has me down as a Mrs. I tried to tell them - apparently I had to prove that I'm not married (the bank staff did acknowledge it would be a challenge to prove something that never happened 😂) so I gave up. I showed them other official documents all with Ms but that's not good enough apparently. I would have thought they'd want accurate documents but apparently not when it comes to titles!

Oh god how ridiculous! Surely they'd want things to match your ID documents.

It's so annoying that men just get to be Mr and never get any hassle about it.