To not quit my job

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I’m 4 months in to a new job, it’s not going well. I’ve already had an informal chat about performance but since then improved an no complaints.
Ive had a few days of when I was very unwell and now I’m off due to caring commitments and my metal health has taken an absolute nose dive. Realistically Im assuming I won’t pass my probation. I feel incredibly guilty the time for training and my family circumstances now mean I’m not as committed and focused as I could/should have been.
I do really enjoy my job even though I’m not great at it, the company is great and my colleagues are wonderful. After commuting and childcare costs I only get about £300 a month for 4 days work.
Ive been signed off sick for 4 weeks. Should I hand my notice in? I feel awful knowing my team will have to cover me, and my performance has already an issue and my caregiving responsibilities have now increased due to an unexpected medical diagnosis for a dependant, which means I’ll be unreliable going forwards.
I don’t know what the reasonable thing to do is here.

I wouldn't leap to hand the notice in, you never know the company could care about work/life balance and all that. See how the probation plays out.

If you do like the job and don’t actively want to leave then I wouldn’t hand notice in. Lots of workplaces are really understanding now and will support staff to keep them, make adjustments/flexibility.

I do like the job, the company is amazing for wellbeing and things like that and genuinely supportive manager. I just feel there would perhaps be an expectation for me to resign after having a few issues in the first few months alone, I don’t want to create an awkward situation where I’m pushed as I’d like to remain friends with my team.

my previous workplace was so toxic, I feel like I’ve lost all perception or what’s normal. A couple of errors, some sickness and compassionate leave all in the early days would have seen my p45 immediately at my old employer.

I wouldn’t jump into doing that. I would ask to meet with them to discuss things. What they may do is extend your probation period.

Personally I would quit if I couldn’t see myself doing it long term.
Your team will find a way to cover for you. You have been there for 4 months so I’m assuming still training.
Getting £300 after all that effort and stress it’s hardly worth it. What type of work is it? Can you find something that works better around family life?

They'll probably let you go anyway as your in your probation period. Better to leave than be sacked.

Be fair to them and resign. Otherwise you’ll become a real headache for them and it won’t end amicably.

How much of the four months have you been absent? The policy should be on the website including back to work process and dismissal during probation.

Hmm two periods of absence in 4 months plus performance issues doesn't look good. Sorry.

Dont resign yet but apply for other jobs.

Edited. Wrong chat