To move far away from Teens comp

[Cupofteaformeee]

I’m currently putting together a plan to leave verbally abusive/EA stbexh. I’m currently on the list for a council house or a housing association house. Both are reluctant to house me in the same locality as ex due to abuse and risks. However DS loves his comp, him changing schools is not an option. He has a great social life and new found independence where he goes out after school and comes home (eventually!)

His school is a 10 minute walk from where we currently are. The risk now is moving would result in DS having to get a bus (30/40 minutes) to school in the morning and he would of course be separated from his friends. Ex would have DS too and we would share custody.

My dilemma is - should I fight to stay in the same village or have a fresh start elsewhere but at the detriment of DS. (He’s 13 soon)

Another risk is DS probably will prefer to stay at his current home as all his friends are in the area and he won’t have to worry about getting to school.

The council have stated that Womens aid would have to write to them stating that my staying in the locality would not put me at risk, just seen a lovely house come up today which is 6 miles away from the school.

Physically abusive? or verbal? is he likely to escalate when you put this plan into motion? Do you have local support? family, friends etc? If I had support and didn't think the ex would escalate then I'd probably stay in the area. If I thought he'd flip a lid and I'd be physically at risk then I'd take a different course

He’s not physically abusive, it’s all verbal abuse, name calling, emotional abuse and manipulation. There has been a number of threats of violence over the years especially in the early years of my children being born. The irony is that things are probably the best they have ever been and he’s on his best behaviour. Things are calm in the house, I know I need to leave though.

Yeah ideally my son would stay in the local area, we would just live separately.

My family live an hour bus ride away. I don’t really have a support network here, I do have a few Mum friends who I meet for coffee etc but could still see them even if I moved.