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To ask if this is illegal?

9 replies

Stressedafff · 23/09/2024 00:44

Bit of background sorry

I live in a ground floor HA flat, block of 6
2 of my neighbours are in a relationship with eachother
Shared communal garden.

Both myself and the man above me have reported them for using cannabis and general ASB
This has culminated in a lot of odd behaviour.
They are constantly staring into my flat. They watch me at the kitchen window, walk very close to other windows and just general weird behaviour. Both sets of neighbours are unemployed and seem to focus their whole life on the goings on of the flat block and those who live in it

On one side of the door to the communal garden is my DC’s bedroom, the other side is my next door neighbours. Her and her boyfriend, his family from upstairs and friends have taken to loitering and smoking weed right outside DC’s window. There is now a chair directly facing into the window. I feel really really uneasy for obvious reasons. I have reported to the HA but have been told I have no proof and to report to the police.

I’m just wondering if anyone has any insight on what I can do about this? Asking them to move it isn’t an option as they are seriously unpleasant and me asking them not to leave dimps on my windowsill has resulted in some Peeping Tom activity which I don’t want to add fuel to.

OP posts:
RechargeableGnu · 23/09/2024 00:51

Can you put some of that mirrored cover on your windows so they can't see in?

mycatsbestfriend · 23/09/2024 00:59

Go out and just move the chair. Can you not just say to them can you do that away from my daughter's window ? They'd have to be really awful people to refuse or make a scene

sommerjade · 23/09/2024 01:18

Have you got net curtains? They're really affordable. I've got plain voile ones that are quite thick for privacy reasons. They're not the most fashionable but very useful.

Sorry to hear that you're having trouble.

Paisleydad · 23/09/2024 05:31

Almost certainly illegal.

  1. Harassment.
  2. Possession of class B drugs.
Devilsmommy · 23/09/2024 05:33

How old is your DC? I'd be calling the police about weirdo neighbours staring in a child's bedroom

Paigey30 · 23/09/2024 14:22

Stressedafff · 23/09/2024 00:44

Bit of background sorry

I live in a ground floor HA flat, block of 6
2 of my neighbours are in a relationship with eachother
Shared communal garden.

Both myself and the man above me have reported them for using cannabis and general ASB
This has culminated in a lot of odd behaviour.
They are constantly staring into my flat. They watch me at the kitchen window, walk very close to other windows and just general weird behaviour. Both sets of neighbours are unemployed and seem to focus their whole life on the goings on of the flat block and those who live in it

On one side of the door to the communal garden is my DC’s bedroom, the other side is my next door neighbours. Her and her boyfriend, his family from upstairs and friends have taken to loitering and smoking weed right outside DC’s window. There is now a chair directly facing into the window. I feel really really uneasy for obvious reasons. I have reported to the HA but have been told I have no proof and to report to the police.

I’m just wondering if anyone has any insight on what I can do about this? Asking them to move it isn’t an option as they are seriously unpleasant and me asking them not to leave dimps on my windowsill has resulted in some Peeping Tom activity which I don’t want to add fuel to.

Get onto them repeatedly in the end they will take you seriously enough to do something. All that staring into windows, loitering, more than likely spitting when smoking, is all harassment behaviour and trying to intimidate!

AmateurDad · 26/09/2025 00:57

Stressedafff · 23/09/2024 00:44

Bit of background sorry

I live in a ground floor HA flat, block of 6
2 of my neighbours are in a relationship with eachother
Shared communal garden.

Both myself and the man above me have reported them for using cannabis and general ASB
This has culminated in a lot of odd behaviour.
They are constantly staring into my flat. They watch me at the kitchen window, walk very close to other windows and just general weird behaviour. Both sets of neighbours are unemployed and seem to focus their whole life on the goings on of the flat block and those who live in it

On one side of the door to the communal garden is my DC’s bedroom, the other side is my next door neighbours. Her and her boyfriend, his family from upstairs and friends have taken to loitering and smoking weed right outside DC’s window. There is now a chair directly facing into the window. I feel really really uneasy for obvious reasons. I have reported to the HA but have been told I have no proof and to report to the police.

I’m just wondering if anyone has any insight on what I can do about this? Asking them to move it isn’t an option as they are seriously unpleasant and me asking them not to leave dimps on my windowsill has resulted in some Peeping Tom activity which I don’t want to add fuel to.

Sorry, what are “dimps”?

Vaxtable · 26/09/2025 01:18

@AmateurDad

from the Urban dictionary, I had to look it up!

dimp
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End of a cigarette or spliff that has been 'dimped' or 'pecked' out - extinguished - with the intimation that some tobacco or dope remains smokable, either by re-lighting the originalitem(while burning your nose-hair) or re-cycling with other dimps into a new roll-up or spliff

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Vaxtable · 26/09/2025 01:19

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