So, background: I was in a group of six women. We met at work, and even though we gradually moved on work wise we met up regularly for meals and catch ups.
there was a bit of a falling out a few years ago between me and friend A. I have reflected on this, and a lot of her behaviour, and I now realise friend A is quite toxic. The main reason for the fall out was that I’d started dating my current partner and was happy (still am), but she had decided that I should date her brother in law and wasn’t happy that I wasn’t doing so.
The group split after this, which I was devastated about. Friend A had been friends with friend B since school. Friend B obviously took her side. I tried to stay in touch with friend C, we met up a few times, but I can see on FB that she’s spending a lot of time with friend A and B, and hasn’t been keen to meet up with me, which is sad, but I accept that.
my AIBU is… I have been in contact with friend D, who has told me that friend A was having an affair with friend B’s long term bf. Friend D found out from friend A when the bf put a stop to it, and friend A wanted some sympathy from friend D.
I know I’m not in touch with them anymore, and you can say it’s nothing to do with me, but I like friend B, and I feel she is controlled by friend A. I keep putting myself in her situation, and I would definitely want to know. I know the messenger often gets the grief, but tbh if that happens it doesn’t make much difference to me.
sorry if this is a bit complicated to read, but AIBU to tell friend B that friend A was sleeping with her bf?