When I was pregnant, I was best friends with a girl who found out she was pregnant not long after I did (due dates less than a month apart). We spoke about how our children were going to grow up together and just shared pregnancy experiences - we were both young mums and it made it feel a lot less lonely. For context, she also was my shoulder to cry on when I confided in her about the abuse I was being subjected to by my partner, even when pregnant. She would wipe away my tears and beg me to leave him.
Well her and her partner broke up as he found out he was cheating on her - I didn’t think much of it at the time until I found out that she was cheating with MY partner at the time. We were both still pregnant.
He left me for her, which to be honest done me a favour as I had tried to escape his abuse multiple times but I could never get away. At least a positive came out of that. But they got together during our pregnancies, he aided HER during her pregnancy, his family threw HER a baby shower and gave the gifts meant for my baby - to hers (and no the baby isn’t biologically his). When the babies were born, lockdown hit and I was a single parent living alone with a newborn (after a csection) and she had him to help raise her baby.
The worst of all, despite her watching me being abused for years - she started putting all over social media how I was ‘scum’ and awful horrible names about me because she believed lies that he told her (his smear campaign against me). She also started calling herself ‘mum’ to my baby and they both referred to me as the ‘incubator’.
I was 22 and alone, I was trying to heal from abuse in the home that broke me during lockdown. Whilst raising a newborn on 3 hours sleep a night. Then watching her, him and their family and friends all call me the most awful horrendous names on social media, basically being cyber ‘bullied’ - I really didn’t want to be alive anymore.
I pushed through and became a stronger person because of it. But I never really forgave and I hold a bit of a grudge. I know people have this thing that the woman owes no loyalty to you - it’s the man who does, which I completely get… but if they’re aware they’re in a relationship then they’re also in the wrong. It’s just also the fact that the entire time he was cheating on me with her, she comforted me when I told her about the horrendous abuse I had endured. Then made ME out to be a horrible person. She took my partner, tried to take my baby, basically stole my ‘happiness’ all so she could thrive