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To ask for a bloody big head wobble

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Namechange1990 · 21/09/2024 21:05

So i thibk stupidly i have managed to fall for an idiot yet again. Ive been staying with him (only me no kids) with my 2 dogs and his cat... Not bewn a problem together although will admit puppy has struggled and has had a few accidents (hes a dog not his fault i think its just a new place), frustrating i get it but hardly the end of the world. He was one who suggested them up here!

So long story short i get back from work this evening (was offered little bits when im here by someone local), made a lovely tea and he fed pets. Dogs 1 side of stairgate cat the other, works great except he left gate open and dog ate the cats food. Well he went mad banging things, shouting the lot. I was so angry i said i would just take dogs home tommorow and started getting bits together. Well he went mad basically threatening to throw me out, id ended our relationship... i was mental, crazy. Its in the middle of no where the nearest station is 4 hours walk along Country roads so obv cant walk tonight, poss can in morning but its dangerous roads or have to hope he will take me.

Hes allowed me to stay and ive shut myself in a bedroom but i just feel so stupid. He's told me i ended things, it's all my fault I've fucked up everything etc. How the hell did i not see these red flags or am i in wrong. I got angry for him yelling at the dog but i dont really think it was dogs fault he forgot to shut a gate. Literally all this is over. Everything seems to be twisted to my fault the slightest thing becomes something I've done. I left a really abusive relationship a couple of years ago and this guy seemed so nice and genuine so I just keep thinking is it me? Am i in the wrong? Or seeing flags where there aren't any?

I know in my heart maybe i need tl just walk away if this is what hes like but i keep second guessing myself

OP posts:
Namechange1990 · 22/09/2024 11:02

Well im home... Horrible drive where i was shouted at alot but its done now i guess 😭 thank you everyone who commented. Xx

OP posts:
Beaverbridge · 22/09/2024 11:05

Good, glad your home and safe. He sounds mental.

ThirstyThursday · 22/09/2024 11:12

I'm glad you're home.

Do not get drawn back in.

for starters anyone that flips their lid over a puppy eating the cats dinner. Isn't a stable person.

secondly the way he spoke to you & what he actually said. Didn't come from a man that loves you or cares about you

Dont let him talk you around

anon12345anon · 22/09/2024 11:50

Namechange1990 · 22/09/2024 11:02

Well im home... Horrible drive where i was shouted at alot but its done now i guess 😭 thank you everyone who commented. Xx

Glad you're home safe with your doggies x
Please don't feel stupid - he sounds fucking mental and a nasty guy.....

Yellowbananasarebetterthangreen · 22/09/2024 11:56

Glad your are home safe @Namechange1990. Lesson learned. Dont feel stupid, mistakes are easily made sometimes.

AmICrazyToEvenBother · 22/09/2024 11:57

Glad you're home safely. Block, delete and forget him.

Try not to waste your energy feeling stupid - sometimes people are really good at hiding who they are until they're triggered into revealing themselves.

What happened is not your fault, but if you take anything away from this, let it be a note to never go somewhere where you can't get yourself back from one way or another.

Big hugs.

greencheetah · 22/09/2024 11:59

Please don’t get sucked back into this. He’s horrible.

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