To think this is really weird to question my child on this?

[Himitsu]

My 10 year old went to a friends house for a lunch today. She came back and asked if we rent or have a mortgage. I asked why and apparently the friends mum had been questioning her. She asked my daughter:

What job I do
What car do I drive
Do I have a degree
Do we own or rent
How many holidays do we go on a year

Aibu to think these are weird questions to ask a 10 year old??

The mum is trying to figure out if you are “her kind of people”.

Odd and inappropriate! I wouldn't be sending her back there again.

Asking what job you do seems OK, but the rest is a bit intrusive and I wouldn't expect a 10 year old to be able to answer reliably or accurately.

So yes, odd. I wouldn't be happy about it though wouldn't bother saying anything.

The mum is going to try to sell you something.

She was being nosy.
At 10 I wouldn't have even known what "rent or mortgage" meant. Nor what make of car we had ("it's blue" would have been the type of answer I would have given).
I probably wouldn't have known what "having a degree" meant at 10 either.

This was my initial thought. The mum will turn out to be an MLM Hun.

There is no good reason to ask these questions.

I’m a petty cunt so I’d text and say ‘thank you for having Jessica - she had a lovely time but was sorry not to have the info you asked.

FYI we have a massive mortgage - can barely afford the repayments by my Only Fans channel has taken off so things are looking up. I do have a degree but one of those Mickey Mouse ones - but uni was great for learning the skills that’s got my OF popular. Just shout if you have any more screening questions’

What a prat.

I would maybe ask a child what job their parent did in normal conversation but the other questions are inappropriate and odd, unless your child brought up something relating to them first. It does sound like she was trying to figure out if your family is “good enough” for her and her child or whatever she can look down on you. Some people are so judgemental they actually look for things to judge people for. It’s ridiculous.

Yeah weird. Avoid avoid avoid!

I would message something like this too.

Not weird as such but definitely nosy and rude. Did your DD know the answers?

DS recently got asked by a friend's mum that if one of his parents were to die would he prefer it to be me or DH? I thought that was weird.

There was a mum like this at my children's primary school. Very nosey and forward with personal questions. She had a huge house very close to school. She ended up with a select group of children who would regularly be invited after school and to exclusive parties for many occasions that she wasn't discreet about (sending paper invites in, in the age of online invites), the only common denominator was all the parents of the children invited were professionals such as doctors, lawyers etc the parents didn't seem to even have much in common. My daughter was only invited once, at the beginning of primary. Clearly she failed the interview and we didn't meet her expectations. My daughter actually was close friends with hers, and it was heartbreaking having to walk behind them and say sorry you weren't invited.

Annoyingly my daughter did know the answers to the questions! But yeah it’s fucking weird isn’t it. I feel an bit invaded!

Yeah this! Nosey fucker!

My child would never be going back there. What a bitch.

Aside from the job one which I would put down to general chit chat - the rest is fucking weird and I can’t find an innocent explanation for it. Definitely a case of measuring you.

Quizing all that at once weird.

Something come up in conversation, like I wouldn't in general find it odd to be asked about a job, degree, car if thats what the general topic of conversation is on. Its not secretive.

As a kid people use to often ask me about my dads car, I always got 'your dads the farmer with the big jeep right?' (we are not farmers and never own a jeep lol but my dad did fix up a few old land rovers though). So I can see kids being asked stuff like 'what school does your mam teach at?' or 'is that your dads new Mercedes I saw at your house?' etc...

I honestly don't know how you could have a conversation with a 10 year old about rent/mortgages though, what on earth would a 10 year old know about that? That a bizarre thing to ask.

That’s for confirming. I thought it was odd! Not in a huge hurry for my daughter to go back there.

I actually remember a mum like this when I was 10. She asked me how many bedrooms my house had, how many bathrooms, how big the rooms were, what my parents did for work. I was baffled.

Looking back, she was status obsessed and a snob. As I grew up, she had an affair with three different men, each time trading up to a husband with more money. Her step kid tried to commit suicide though as a teen, because they hated her so much and she wouldn't let them see their mum. Now none of her biological or step kids will speak to her as adults...

So... You know, she's probably someone horrible like that 🙈

The other mum sounds wildly snobbish. Reminds of the school interview I had years ago aged 10, after I passed their selection test where I was asked what my Father did and what newspaper he read. I am still outraged about that over 50 years later.

I agree and it’s not very subtle is it 😂

omg

I'm baffled that so many of you think it's normal to ask a primary school aged child what their parents do for a living. How does that come up exactly?
The rest of it is intrusive and weird too.