To be annoyed when people constantly complain about their jobs but never take action to improve their situation?

[SoloWanderer]

I have a friend who constantly complains about her job but never does anything to change her situation. She frequently vents about her dissatisfaction without considering job searching or addressing her concerns.

AIBU to be frustrated by her complaints and lack of proactive steps?

My friend too, she was trapped for a while with childcare fees and bedtime routines but she has time now for evening courses and days off for interviews but I know she won't ever leave.

I can't deal with people who whine and never do anything to change their situation (if it can be changed).

I have no patience for it and would shut it down.

Yep! And with encouragement they do apply and go for interviews and are offered the jobs but then don't take them 😫
It's a big thing changing jobs and it can make people super anxious to think of that level of change and take the leap!

It is hard though to keep positive with friends who are like this especially when they ask your advice. I've stopped trying to mentor/coach now with my friend who is like this and just try to listen and empathise.

I get frustrated about anyone whining about anything they have control over. Job, hair, weight, relationship. People don't like the status quo but are top scared to change it.

when your friend starts venting (again), answer with, "well what are you going to do about it then, rather than just keep moaning on and on week after week, what are you going to do? " and if she say nothing, I can't, what can I do, tell her to stop moaning then, she accepting her fate, she can't moan.

Apathy and complaining are easier than proactivity and the unknown.

My Mum has been bitching about her job and her colleagues for nigh on 20 years now 🙄

She won't change anything now, she's too close to retirement.

Some people don't want to actually change

They just want to vent about their situation and to have a sympathise ear

And there’s nothing wrong with that- a good friend would understand.

A good friend would understand that you don't want to listen to their annoying whining.

Sometimes the crappy atmosphere you’re complaining about at work also crushes your self esteem to the point it’s hard to imagine succeeding at interview!

Sometimes you’ve been there so long you understand that the horrible people will eventually leave.

Sometimes you’re hoping that the shitshow will result in redundancy payments 😂

Also some people just like venting. Maybe don’t be friends with them if you don’t want to swap job horror stories.