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To leave my masters?

36 replies

Nichebitch · 21/09/2024 12:51

I work in a manager role and I’ve been doing so for around 5 years. I have a degree and masters degree in a field unrelated to my job, and a professional qualification in my current job. I just changed jobs, and my previous company paid for me to do a masters level qualification, which is about what I do but I don’t really need. I’m in my mid forties and have a child, and I’m now wondering if I want to spend my little free time studying something that I don’t care much about, just because it costs a lot of money and it might or might not help me in the future. Just to clarify, leaving wouldn’t have any consequences as I’m not in the company that paid for it anymore. The exams I would have to pay for (like 1k) which I can afford but still a lot of money.
AIBU to leave an expensive masters because I can’t be bothered?

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BruFord · 03/10/2024 17:11

BakedBeansMum · 03/10/2024 17:01

What did you decide Nichebitch? I’m in a similar (although not exactly the same) position. Just started a Masters in Sept and already wondering if it’s the wrong thing. It just seems that I can’t imagine how I can devote the hours I need to to it. I’m currently a SAHM so my intention was to keep my hand in in my field of work, but it’s by no means essential as I’d worked at a senior level for 5 years before maternity. I’m 40 and have a child and wondering if it’s just too much pressure? Feel a bit pathetic saying that given I don’t work but I also only have 9 hours of childcare a fortnight.

@BakedBeansMum I did my Master’s while home with young children and I’d encourage you to keep going. Pay for babysitters if you need to (I’d study upstairs while they entertained the toddlers). Is there an option to study part-time? I took just over three years to do a two-year degree.

I took six years total out of the workforce, but having a recent degree made a big difference when I started applying for jobs. Good luck. 🍀

BakedBeansMum · 03/10/2024 17:25

@BruFord it is a part time course already but over 2 years. At this point in time paying for babysitters is not an option either financially or for my child. The transition to nursery has been incredibly challenging for her and so adding babysitters to the mix would make things even harder. It may be something I could look into in the future but definitely not now, sadly it would just add more stress. We also have little family support nearby. Thank you for sharing your experience, it’s good to hear others’ views on it.

Birthdaycake369 · 03/10/2024 17:38

I would say spend the time with your family. I have spent the last 4 years studying in the evenings towards a degree through the OU. My husband passed away suddenly just before the end of my last module and prior to his death I had barely seen him because I was studying so much. I wish I could go back in time and prioritise us but it’s too late. Wishing you all the best whatever you decide

BakedBeansMum · 03/10/2024 17:52

I’m so sorry to hear that @Birthdaycake369 I know we never know what’s round the corner but also can understand why you feel that way. I am wondering myself if I just need to live in the moment a bit. Really hope you have some good support to help you through this difficult time

Whatonearth07957 · 06/10/2024 18:43

It's paid for, grit your teeth and complete it.

Nichebitch · 09/10/2024 20:50

@BakedBeansMum I spoke to the school and managed to postpone till February, I’ll decide then!
I understand what a lot of people are saying, but I have several degrees and this one I don’t even love - I love studying but this one is not that interesting, it’s more of a corporate development thing. I wonder if carrying on getting qualifications is just anxiety at this point.

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Scribblesforme · 09/10/2024 20:51

I wouldn't. I quit too.

Nichebitch · 09/10/2024 20:52

@Birthdaycake369 I’m really sorry for your loss.
My mum passed away at the age I am now, that plays in my mind too.

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Nichebitch · 09/10/2024 20:55

BakedBeansMum · 03/10/2024 17:01

What did you decide Nichebitch? I’m in a similar (although not exactly the same) position. Just started a Masters in Sept and already wondering if it’s the wrong thing. It just seems that I can’t imagine how I can devote the hours I need to to it. I’m currently a SAHM so my intention was to keep my hand in in my field of work, but it’s by no means essential as I’d worked at a senior level for 5 years before maternity. I’m 40 and have a child and wondering if it’s just too much pressure? Feel a bit pathetic saying that given I don’t work but I also only have 9 hours of childcare a fortnight.

I think in your position it prob depends on your plans / no plans for promotion?

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BigDahliaFan · 09/10/2024 20:59

I've got a masters, it's been no use 8n my career at all. Though work paid for it. A phd on the other hand,,,

MyKidsAreTooNoisy · 09/10/2024 21:01

It’s paid for, but not by you, so it’s someone else’s sunk cost fallacy. I could not be arsed with this at all. 2 nights studying a week for something you are not interested in with no clear tangible benefit? Fuck.That. Shit.

Just noticed you first posted quite a while ago, so hope you are happy with your decision OP!

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