Hi ladies.
Yesterday me a sense my husband decided to set some boundaries for our family in terms of how often we see each other. This includes our children.
Our relationship was fine until the children came, and all of a sudden I was the villain. I took everything and did nothing apart from stay true to my values because I was young.
However, MIL behaviour kept getting worse and racial stuff started being involved and displayed. I told myself I'd be okay as long as I shrugged it off and put up with for the children. I wanted them to have grandparents involved at the capacity they were having, despite our relationship.
She would always cross boundaries by pushing her own wants . Staying longer than she was supposed to by 5 days for example, by lying to my husband about me saying she could. She would even pretend to be sad and then immediately get angry at me. On the third day out of 8 I would be crying my eyes out because of her. When she left I felt guilty despite her making racist remarks towards my children 3 days in a row and causing me upset. She even got her husband involved to openly say that me ans my husband are really dirty in front of my kids.
They are 2 & 3, but recently something happened that surrounds a topic of trauma that I have and she says to my husband that I'm lying. That was the last straw. She even said to him that she was going to lose interest in our children soon. That's a boundary I can't let anyone cross, as my kids need to be safe from predators.
It taught me that she likes my children but doesn't truly care for them, just like her own children. I have always cared for my children alone/ with my partner. She hasn't taken care of them since they were born.
AIBU for saying it'd be best that we see each other on birthdays and special occasions, summer etc. To protect my mental health and keep a healthy relationship.
Ps. There's way worse but I feel bad saying those things.